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Getting started - I want to try a threesome with my husband and another man

I want to try a threesome with my husband and another man. We are not sure how to select someone. I believe a random meeting would be best instead of a preplanned meeting for sex. I imagine meeting some one who we both agree would be interested and allow him to seduce me. Is this a right way for the 1st time. I am not interested in lot of forplay,just be taking how ever they please. Any opinions would be helpful.

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If you track any of my post here at askD&J, you'll see the road before me. I would assume that the best plan is to go with who you know. There are a lot of reasons to stick to that motto and it is a easy plan to follow. If you don't have anyone to choose from, because you are afraid of alienating them as friends, then make new ones.

I would stress that "picking" someone up is a somewhat risky idea.

Trying Adult Friend Finder or a group chat room is a good starting place to make new friends.

Good Luck!

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amaftr wrote:

I want to try a threesome with my husband and another man. We are not sure how to select someone. I believe a random meeting would be best instead of a preplanned meeting for sex. I imagine meeting some one who we both agree would be interested and allow him to seduce me. Is this a right way for the 1st time. I am not interested in lot of forplay,just be taking how ever they please. Any opinions would be helpful.

What do you mean by that? Planning on ambushing some guy without telling him up front what your intentions are? There is a recipe for disaster.

I don't understand how you are going to go about doing this without some sort of "preplanning" other then just try to pick guys off the street.

Just because you agree to meet with someone doesn't mean you are obligated to have sex with them. The seduction aspect can / will still happen. Just post on AFF you are interested in single men for a MFM, you should have about a billion PM's in about 10 minutes.

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Definitely agree with OverKnight and Tankman101, plan this out first.

Can't you just find some guy you'll never see again?

I know where you're coming from; most people when they first accept this type of a fantasy, want to do it almost "in hiding" so nobody can find them again later. we get questions like "where can we meet a hot girl that we'll never see again?".

OK, there is nothing whatsoever weird of bad or in any way wrong with your fantasy. In fact it's very, very common. You're actually in great luck - there are WAY more couples looking for a single girl than there are single girls looking for them. But single men looking for couples? Oh man, look out below!

That puts you (and your husband) - you two should be doing this together as a couple, communicating completely if you want this to work out well - in a great position. You can pretty much pick and choose from a multitude of intererested single men.

Where to find THE single man for you?

But be smart and safe about it. Sign up to Adult Friend Finder (or even SDC.com), fill out a profile, and be very very specific about what you're looking for.

The minute you check that little box saying you're looking for a single man, look out! You could well have your picks narrowed down to a list of 10 "good" candidates in a few days. One of the great benefits of these sites is that you'll find reviews other people have posted to these guys' or couples' profiles - think of it as "references".

How do you meet them?

Be sure to pre-screen these folks. Exchange an email or two, then something interactive like Instant Messaging or phone. Make sure they're sane and harmless. Then go through the extra minor hassle of meeting for a brief 15 minute coffee / glass of wine to see 1. if there really is chemistry and 2. if you're all comfortable with one another. In fact, you can have 3 or 4 of these mini-meetings in the same evening - make it a fun event with your husband to "interview candidates". :D

Bottom line - depending on how your screening process works out, you should have one or two "keepers" in less than a week. Then, and only then you go for the actual fantasy.

Oh, and once you find a few playmates that you like, you'll definitely be meeting them again. It'll be well worth the time you spend up front to find the right ones.

Another quick tip: don't spend a lot of time and effort flirting with these guys before you meet them and know if you really like them in real life. Save that for the "keepers", that way you're not disappointed after you meet someone and they're "not what you hoped".

I know this sounds a little "overcomplicated" compared to what you were hoping for - but since this is your first time in this type of a situation it really pays to be smart and safe about it. Get off on the right foot and this can be a great adventure for you and your husband, and will be great fun. Enjoy!

Let us know how it goes!!

Dan

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My wife was interested in this and I really didn't know what to expect other than I was hoping this would lead to a FMF. We had discussed the details first. We agreed on certain things such as I had no real interest in MM contact. This was to be her night not me doing something to get him off or him getting off in my hole instead of hers. (yes homophobia) either way, we chose to find a person we both agreed on and decided to make friends with this person first. After we befriended this person, we had him over for drinks and started talking about some of the crazy things we did in college. The conversation started to get dirty and then when the moment was right and mixed with enough drinks, we approached the subject.

In the end, you want to befriend the person even if it is with the intention of for sex mostly, only or once. After you feel that you can trust this person enough to screw, then go for it. Just make sure you have talked out the rules with your partner first. I had to be somewhat drunk in order to do it the first time. In the end, she basically was fucked by me just before he arrived. Once he arrived she gave me oral while he played with her a bit before giving it to her. Then she spun around and rode me backwards while blowing him then spun around again and got her 4th filling and I got my 2nd oral. Have fun but play safe and follow the agreed upon rules.

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Why do you want to do this anyway?

Why did you get married?

To file joint taxes? LOL

That way you could just continue dating and whatever, if single...

I'm just wondering.

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PJ, just a quick note and please do not take it personally :-) And perhaps I misunderstood your comment and if so please disregard this, but one of our main rules here is to respect one another's right to our own points of view - including as it applies to lifestyle choices couples decide to make.

Many couples (usually married couples) choose to "as a couple" experience threesomes and do so many other things to enhance of spice up their sex life.

That's their choice and their right, and is no less right in any way that couples choosing to stay completely monogamous.

And althought it's nobody's business but their own - I will say that this approach (which millions of couples are actively involved in btw) is certainly much better than the incredible percentage of couples that have affairs and literally cheat on their partner - Just to clarify, when we say cheat we're not referring to a religious type of definition that has anything to do with monogamy, but literally talking about going behind your partner's back, lying, and breaking that sacred trust.

Thanks!

-- Dan

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