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how to convince a woman to give a blowjob?

my wife and i have been married now for three years. the sex is GREAT, and i know it has the potential to be even GREATER. i just have one complaint... she won't give me a blowjob :(. for some strange reason, she thinks that giving a blowjob is demeaning. i don't understand why she still feels this way, especially since i perform oral sex on her all the time bringing her to mind blowing orgasms.

i've talked to her about it and even tried holding back oral sex on her, but that doesn't work; she still has a "prudish" attitude towards it. it's even gotten to the point where i had purchased a Head Honcho just to experience that blowjob sensation. but i want to experience that wonderful sensation with her. how can i get her to drop that "prudish" attitude:confused:? how can i get her to change her mind about it:confused:?

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There are a lot of women who see it that way, but the question is why. The same reason doesn't apply to everyone. Until you receive fellatio, no more cunnillingus for her, unless you really like doing it that much (don't tell her you won't do it anymore, just stop doing it; you can find something else to "take it's place" instead).

It is not fair to you that she will not reciprocate. You need to find out why she feels the way she does. The why is the key. You'll be stuck until you know what you are dealing with.

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thanks for the response 4711Heart. she said that when she was younger (about 17yrs), the first time she saw a porn video with her friends, there was the shot where the guy came all over the woman's face. she thought it was gross. so basically whatever she saw on the video that time, she thought was gross and demeaning. i guess it's quite obvious by now that she's not a fan of porn.

but i tried to convice her that i don't have to do what they do in the porn videos. i love my wife very much and i would never want to do anything to her that would make her feel humiliated... but, giving a blowjob is not a demeaning act, i think it's one of the greatest "gifts" a woman can give man (just like cunnillingus is one of the greatest "gifts" a man can give a woman).

i'll give your advice a try and try once again to stop cunnillingus (even though I love to do it) and see what happens.

if you or anybody else has any other advice, please let me know.

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My husband and I have been married for 22 years and just recently I have started giving him blow jobs and it is one of the most senual things, but it took me a long time to warm up to it. There are some websites that show how beautiful and senual giving head is and it doesn't have to end with the man cumming all over her face. Just be patient and keep encouraging her don't stop what you are doing, that isn't fair to her. Be sure that you are clean and shave some down there if you haven't and start using a nice smelling soap or shower gel and ask her to go with you to pick some out. It took me a long time to give my husaband head but now I love it, my husband never pushed me and now he is reaping the benefits.

Hope that helps. Good luck:)

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thanks. for the advice.

btw... i do my best to keep down there neat, clean, and pristine... because i'm always hoping to get lucky one day:); unfortunately for me, that day hasn't come yet:(. but i guess patience is the key to success.

just like you now, i've often read how much women love to give it, just as much as men love to receive it (which was actually surprising to me). hopefully we can reach that level one day. but like you said, keep encouraging her... how can i continue to encourage her without seeming to be "pushy"? because that's the last thing i want to do?

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Patients yes and talking to each other will help. Let her know that it isn't like what she sees in porn movies and that you would never do anything that she wouldn't like. :)

You really care about her feelings and that is something, as a women, I think it wonderful. All I can see is keep trying. I know that is much comfort or help.

Good luck;)

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be gentle to your woman! Please dont forget that

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after 25 yrs of being married, I could count on one hand, how often my wife blew me...NEVEr to the point of cumming in her mouth. So I knew she did not like it. But recently, she has been doing it and enjoying it...as long as I promise to not come in her mouth. I accept that....:D

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Here are the videos:

Emotional Freedom Techniques

Ask her the exact emotions she feels towards blowjobs and then tap her pressure points while saying the phrase, "Even though I blowjobs demeaning, I deeply and completely accept myself."

Do EFT on her everyday for a week and then ask her for a blowjob.

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I wont marry a woman without having sex with her & making sure shes not a dud first. If she doesnt cover all the natural things tht I like to hav performed like oral sex as a blow job & cum in her mouth after it, then I kick her to the curb & find one tht will do tht & let me cum naturally. I love giving & recieving oral sex. Oral sex is crucial to a relationship. Without it, sex or love would be boring.

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Isaac,

I think before marriage there should be an agreement on the frequency and types of sexual activity that will occur during the marriage. I wouldn't get married if we did not come to an agreement on that. There should be a signed agreement, and if the wife does not live up the agreement that was signed that would be grounds for divorce.

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jloew44 wrote:

after 25 yrs of being married, I could count on one hand, how often my wife blew me...NEVEr to the point of cumming in her mouth. So I knew she did not like it. But recently, she has been doing it and enjoying it...as long as I promise to not come in her mouth. I accept that....:D
YOu got to surprise her sometimes and put one to the Jaw.

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Anonymous User wrote:

Isaac,

I think before marriage there should be an agreement on the frequency and types of sexual activity that will occur during the marriage. I wouldn't get married if we did not come to an agreement on that. There should be a signed agreement, and if the wife does not live up the agreement that was signed that would be grounds for divorce.

I married a coke whore with all the promises. I have had women blow me but if they didn't like to do it it usually wasn't worth it. They like it or they don't.

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See if she'll do a 69. Those are fun and very exciting. You got her womanhood in your face and she is pleasing you. But if you do it without a bath you will get a smell of something you might not want.

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