How to get over a fetish?
I have a strange fetish I really don't like talking about but I don't think the description is relevant for my issue here. It's a fantasy I have been masturbating over all my life but I've never had any desire to put into practice. Actually the same things that appeal me in the fatasizing are unappealing IRL.
So what is the big deal? That I can't find any other way to get physically exicted. I am single now but when I had a partner it was really awkward because he was the only one I wanted to be with, but I couldn't be turned on unless I spaced out and thought to my totally unrelated fantasy (and NO, applying the fantasy to him, even just in my head, didn't work at all). I just told him I had little experience and I was so used with my hand that I had to simulate the psychological situation, but it was quite frustrating because I couldn't properly have sex with my partner, I was using his hand to masturbate me while all the excitement came from other thoughts.
So I am not saying how I can get rid of the fetish at all, since 1. I know it's hard 2. who cares if I use it to masturbate now and then.
Just... is there a way not to be stuck? To find OTHER things I can enjoy, and that might involve a partner? I like having orgasms and I want to have a happy relationship someday, why can't I put the two things together? Please help.