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is it abnormal for me to want my husband to cum on my pssy and then lick it off?

and also i really want to use a strap on on him,we have tried anal play,and we have enjoyed it,but he acts like it is something he should not like,but he does,so he is hesitant,but he has admitted to mein the past that he has done things to his anus,inserting items during masturbation,so i know he wants it,but he is embarrassed,how can i make him more comfortable about talking about sex,he is shy,and even discussing normal sexual issues with him,he gets shy,we have no problems doing sex together,i just would like for us to be able to talk about it more,and i really would love to do these things with him,how do i approach the question about him going down on me after he cums on me?we have never even been to that question,and it seems dirty,which is why it turns me on so much,but him being reserved about the other stuff even though he likes it,it kinda makes me not want to ask him,but i should ask,i really love him,we have been married for 7 years,and usually we can talk about anything,but lateley my sex drive has increased big time,i am 32,the 30's thing,you know?so what should i do,or rather how do i make him comfortable with talking about such things without offending him,and what do i do if he says he doesnt like it,when he has said in the past that he does,and we have done these things,he likes it,he is just really shy.

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Everything you described to me is completely normal.

This forum gets questions like this all the time. It's just a matter of people adjusting and accepting, and trying new things.

Your husband sounds a lot like my girlfriend. It's just going to take a lot of patience understanding, and time to get to where you want to be.

My suggestion would be to have sex, and if hes not used to cuming on your vagina have him just do that, then next time try to get him to taste it. Something that would be slowly conditioning him to the next step.

My other suggestion would to be try and talk to him about it, but try to get him to respond how he feels about doing those things. Also talk to him about it after sex and try to get an idea of how he feels, communication is a key part of sex.

The anal sex is just going to take a lot of lube.Take things slow, use communication and it should not hurt. If its hurting stop immediately and reposition or stop for the time being and try another time. You may and should probably start with finger play before you insert anything in there. You may also wish to clean that area. I'm not an expert on anything nor is anyone else really on this forum. But we all are here to help.

Reply with any further questions and I'll do my best as with anyone else who may be able to help you.

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someone like you.

You said you have been married for seven years, so you must trust each other. What you could do one night is surprise him and already have a strap on. If he seems embarrassed let him know you're all right with it. Hopefully he'll relax and the both will have a great time. Then approach him about your fantasy. I'll bet he'll be glad to do whatever you ask.

Good luck!!

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but neither of you answered if it was normal for me to feel like this,and is it in the norm for men to taste/eat their own semen?my husband is more like a female when it comes to sex and talk about sexual things,most guys want their women to do these things and women are hesitant,it is opposite here,he never asks for anything sexual,i ask him if he has fantasies,he says no,only threesomes,and we have discussed that and he says he would love to,but he knows that i am a jealous type,so i told him if we did it,we would do it with a female for him,but then we would also have to do it with a male for me,after that he said we would probably get to that point and then both back out.he is jealous of me too,we couldnt do it,i know that.my point is,he can discuss sexual things that seem in the norm to him,but as soon as we get on a subject of something not quite normal in his eyes,he gets embarrassed and doesnt want to discuss it,when i talk to him about my sex toys,he says isnt that kinda private and something to not talk about,i told him he was my husband and we should be able to talk about everything,since then he has done better,also 1 more topic,he doesnt masturbate in front of me,when i asked him next time he does it to not stop,he promised to not stop,but so far i have yet to "catch him" i will give him a little more time,but the point here is,see how embarrassed he gets,he was taught that masturbation was something to hide,to be embarrassed about,so how will i ever get him to be comfortable when he cant even masturbate in front of me?how can i ask him to do what i want when it is extreme to that?and please answer if these things are normal and if others have asked the same...women i mean,and have men tasted?

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It all is completely normal. This whole forum has topics of everything you talked about in one sense or another. To the from what you see in the "normal" society that may not be true, but you must remember that anything in life can happen. Your negotiator may be having sex next door. Or that your co-worker could be a dominatrix. So yes, everything you feel, and that you want to do is completely normal.

Again everything is going to take conditioning like I stated above. Just slowly work on things a bit at a time go get to where you want to be. I believe your husband will come out and be more sexual if you take things one step at a time.

The only thing I wanted to mention about the threesome was don't do it unless you both won't get jealous over something like that. If one of you is unsure don't do it. You both have to be sure of what you want to do. Threesomes are a tricky thing to do. Only when you are both comfortable about it then go ahead and have one.

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Sorry for not directly answering your question. Yes is is perfectly normal to taste your own semen. Just beacause your the woman doesn't make these desires abnormal. What I see is different comfort levels when discussing sex, fantasies and desires. You obviously are more comfortable talking than your husband. Upbringing as a child has a lot to do with this. My wife is more comfortable discussing sexual wants/fantasies than I. So don't get frustrated, just relize it will take time. Take small steps in getting your husband to open up. Maybe start by masturbating in front of him with one of your "toys". Then help him mastubate at the same time. Just go slow!! As he gets comfortable, he'll open up more. I do agree that if jealousy is an issue about threesomes, don't go there. At least not at this time. Maybe after your husband opens up more that can be revisited later.

Hope this helps.... Good Luck !!

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I agree that this is completely normal both the going down after and the anal play.. Myself, I find it very hot to go down on my wife after sex and lick up my own cum. Not because I like the taste of cum but because it is something considered "dirty or kinky". It is the act itself that is the turn on. As for the anal play, not my thing so I could not really give any good advice on this other than it is normal as long as both are into it. I believe that in a committed relationship that most anything is "normal" just as long as both are in agreement. My wife loved when I go down on her after sex. She will actually push me towards her and tell me in her sexy voice to suck her clean. I find this very sexy. She loves the feeling obviously as I have never found a woman who does not like to be licked down there, but add in the taboo of having your husband lick up his own cum and that makes the orgasm even better. At least according to my wife. It is a mind game..

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yes i agree it is a turn on,because it is nasty and dirty,i am a pervert,i think it is a good thing,but i have been with men who love these things,but my husband is very shy,he likes most things,but this latest thing i discussed,im not too sure,and i really don't want him thinking i am disgusting,or too dirty for him...i will take it slow and condition him like i was suggested and slowly introduce things as i think he is ready,of course i will discuss it with him a little each time,and if we make progress,great,but it definitely is not something that i need in order to feel satisfied,i just would love to have these things complete our sex life together,i feel like i can tell him anything else,and i know i can this too,but it has to be done slowly and gently,thanks all for your support,i will come back and let you know how all is going.

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i was wondering if you would talk about men eating/tasting their own semen,it is not mentioned that often and i think if more people were aware that it is somewhat in the normal,then the people who feel the same way that i do could get a little comfort knowing this is a fetish that other people also like.i was so eembarrassed about it i was afraid to ask,until these kind people told me it was in fact ok,i thought i was into something that no one else liked,why is that,that people talk about all kinds of fantasies and fetishes,but this one noone does talk about?i mean is it really any worse than choking or being bullied around?or a foot fetish?i hink there should be a topic on the most extreme but normal/ok fetishes and fantasies,if you want to use my question(short version)lol,it is ok,i do not mind,i want others like me to not have to worry that their favorite fetish is something normal and nothing to be ashamed about.thanks for all of your help,it means alot.

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I think he just has alot of hang-ups about sex. He's not opening up to you.

He could be hiding something. Does he seem like he likes to give you oral? Maybe he is gay.

As far as whether these things are normal or not, I think it depends on who you ask.

I would think that alot of men would taste it out of curiosity, so they would know what it's like when they expect a woman to swallow. Personally, I hate the taste of my own cum.

Anal play for men is considered to be normal for men.

I remember when I had the same questions about whether ass licking was normal. I received mixed responses when I asked various people. I now accept it as something that is a turn-on for me. I think it's very erotic and taboo.

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he loves it when i go down on him,he is just reserved about the few topics and talking.

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he loves eating my pussy,does it every time we hit the sack,and he does an excelent job at it too:) i am very lucky in that regard.he loves penetrating me,he never plays with my rear though,and i have told him that i like a finger up there while enjoying oral,but he doesn't do it,i think he is too shy to go above the normal,but if i start playing with him with my finger he wont tell me to stop,he is like that in every aspect of our lives,i actually have to keep telling him to tell me how he feels or what he thinks,it is almost like whatever i want to do,i get to do,except i am nervous about asking for using a strap on and him going down on me after he cums,because i joked around about it a couple times and he said eww,gross.but then he would say that if he liked it and thought i was only joking,so i am kinda curious as to tell him seriously what i want,i will start with the cumming on my pussy first and then later try to get him to take a tiny little taste,i think i am getting close though,i gave him a really good bj last night,let him cum in my mouth,i spit it out though,most of it,so he didnt think i had any in there,and after i was done i went to kiss him,he let me peck him,but wouldnt open his mouth for a french,but we never kiss like that after that,so i got pretty close,i will try that a few times to see if he will open up,also i will tell him i didnt get off next time he cums inside my pussy,and tell him i really need to finish with an oral session,and see how he reacts,i am afraid though,because like i said,usually what i want i get,but i only want him to do it if he will like it,i dont want it if it is making him uncomfortable,that would not be any fun,the whole erotic thing is knowing he likes tasting his own cum!!and i never want to feel like i pressured him into anything,and if he does what i think he will do,he will probably do it to make me happy even if he doesnt enjoy it,so i have to tred very carefully and not trick him,even though i desperateley want to,but i will go slow,and after we try the kiss,i will ask him if it was ok,if he liked it or not.if he says it was ok,i will then ask him for what i want,and tell him it is nothing different than what already happened,just in a little larger quanity,and way more turn on for me.lol!as for the strap on part,i will next time i give him a bj,put on a finger condom and lube it up real good,then i will do the come here motion,i have already discussed this with him,he says it was uncomfortable last time,but i told him it was because we did not use lube,he said it felt like it was too dry,so he said he was willing to try again,i will make sure i do it right,my future erotic sex depends on it!!!i am sure i will get him to enjoy it.

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well,i know that he has done it at least a few times since,i try to be quiet and walk in,but it is like he is expecting to be walked in on,just like before,he keeps the tv down real low,when he hears me coming,he turns the tv back up,and he must have his dick just out enough that he puts it away real fast,we both watch porn,and one time i cought him shuting it down,but i came in too quick and i saw it,that is the time i told him to not stop,so i can watch,since then he has only went on the computer a few times,usually when i am sleeping,so now i am getting upset because he knows i want us to be able to masturbate in front of each other,i even let him catch me,he is so polite that if he knows or even thinks i am doing that,he will not come into the room,so i left the bedroom door wide open,and when he went by to go down stairs he did a double take,it got him horny and he immediateley went down for a shower,and one thing led to another,so i started it,but he still wont let me catch him,i will start by having us both masturbate together,to ease him into it,but the turn on for me is to catch him,when he doesnt expect it,and to see how he does it when he is alone and thinks noone is watching,what is wrong with that,so i feel mixed,how can i start to talk to him about my other fantasies when he is so reserved and shy about normal sexual things,is he hiding something from me?i already told him i like anal,for both of us,i told him jokingly about me wanting him to eat his cum after he cums on my pussy,and then about a week or so ago,i asked him to think deep and see if there was a fantasy or some sexual act that he would like to try,i told him not to be shy,that i am a pervert and there was really nothing he could say that i wouldnt like,i told him that i really like most sexual things,and as yet have found nothing that i dont like,i told him before too,that i have a fantasy that i love,guy on guy,not gay men though,straight men doing it for the first time or only a few times,i really do not like how the gay men act if you will,i like a strong man,that acts all man if you know what i am trying to say,but two men like that going at it or even sucking the others dick is a turn on for me,but it doesnt turn me on to the point that i need to try it.not like the issues i have already discussed.but my point again is,he knows he can tell me he likes anything and it will be more than fine with me,i would love it,so is there something wrong with him?i have never met a guy so weird about sex before,i dont get why he is like this,maybe i am too much for him?maybe he liked the way our plain old sex life was,but it got boring to the point that i wasnt getting turned on like i used to,i was getting horny,but not like before,so we didnt even have sex for about 2 years because i gained weight and i didnt feel sexy,i am still big,but i have lost about 30 lbs,i dont like my belly,but i am ok with the restbut he makes me feel sexy,he never made me feel fat,he always made me feel beautiful no matter what, and he is a great lover,but we need to spice it up a little though.i really hope that he comes around,i will try the masturbation again,i will do it with the door open again and let him catch me,then i will say,see how excited you got?well i would like to feel that way too,and maybe then the next time he will let me catch him,and then i will tell him after he cought me,that i will continue,but that i want him to masturbate with me,we did that before,but we were uncomfortable,it was early on in our relationship,the time he caught me,i got off so hard,when we did it the other time i couldnt,so i know it will work this time.lol,well thankss for letting me ramble on,let me know asap of anything you can think of,ok?thanks for listening,it helps alot.

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You're ideas sound fine, just remember to be sensitive to his feelings.

You seem to be sensitive so just keep it up. You seem to have the right ideas.

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Wow!!!omfg!!! I Took A Huge Risk And Told Him All About My Fantasies,and He At First Said It Was A Little Gross,but His Face Said Otherwise,and He Finally Agreed To Try It At Least To See If He Will Like It,him Cumming On My Pussy And Then Licking And Sucking It Off!!also Said We Can Try The Anal Penetration Starting With Fingers With Alot Of Lube,but That He Is Not Into Male On Male,but Thats Ok,maybe After We Get To The Strap On He May Like It Better,if Not,it Is Ok,my Best Fantasies Will Be Done!!!also He Mentioned A Couple Fantasies With Me Too,he Never Did Because He Felt It Was Something People Did Not Discuss,none Of His Ex's Or His Ex Wife Of Thirteen Years Ever Mentioned Anything About Fantasies Or Sex Toys,he Thought Is Was Not Ok To Talk About These Things.thats Why He Was So Shy.

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That's good.

Just one comment I want to make.

There is nothing wrong with getting anal penetration from a woman that is using a strap on. It does in no way make him a homosexual. There are tones of people that state this or ask this question. Even men who do it to them selves that are completely straight. The anus is a sensitive area, that's mostly it and there's nothing wrong with pleasing ones self with heterosexual sex. It doesn't make a person gay.

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it really helped me,knowing i was not abnormal in any way,i didnt think i was,but there was that worry,and i wasn't sure how he was going to handle it.anyway,neither of us think that anal play/penetration makes you gay or bi.we are very open about that,we understand that you can enjoy the feeling of anal play while being totally straight at the same time.he just did not like it the last time i played with him because it felt "dry" we didnt use lube,but i have done it to him in the past,and he loved it,it was fingers and small didlos.i have read alot now on how to perform anal play/penetration,thanks to this site,i am so very greatful that we have a place to go with our most intimate questions and be able to ask freely.it is awesome,i don't know what i would have done otherwise,and then dan and jens info,and videos on all the different subjects has really helped tremendeously,that is what i have been reading and listening to.i really hope you all keep doing this,and i have been trying to help others with their questions with my opinions as well.keep up the good work!! what i wanted to say about my husband is that he was so reserved with his sexuality because his ex wife if 13 years never discussed any sex with him,never shared any fantasies with him,she never even played with sex toys with him or by herself,also none of the girlfriends that he had between his ex wife and i ever talked about any of these things with him either,nor did family or friends,so to him,it was something people always had in their minds but never ever discussed,that is what he thought.after talking to him a few times and finally for a few hours yesterday,he was finally happy and admitted a few fantasies of his with me,however none so far as mine,he did say it was a little gross to think of at first,eating his own semen,but it didnt make him think differently of me,and then after he realized that i was serious and not joking,and that i wanted it,and asked him to at least ry it when he was ready,he said it didnt sound so bad after a few minutes,and finally he had a big smile on his face and said how lucky he was to have his very own wife to act out porn movies with,one of his ultimate fantasies that he thought was always a dream he was to fantasize about,but that could never ever come true,because people simply did not talk about such things,i told him about this site and all that i have read on different peoples fantasies,and he was surprised that people share them so freely.one of his fantasies is to have sex with a skinny pretty black woman,or oriental skinned woman,the dark skin turns him on,and another is to cum all over my face,i told hm i would be happy for him to do that to me,we are discussing the threesome thing,but it will be a long time before we do that,if ever,we are both jealous people,but not like bad jealous,we both think if the other cheated and we did not know about it,we would be very jealous,but we talked and i think we both feel the same way,knowing and allowing the other to have sex with someone else with us is a turn on,but if we ever did do it,i know to start real slow,with dating and flirting first,and if i handle that well we will progress to oral,etc...but like i said,in time...maybe,we do not want our marriage to fail over that,so thanks guys very much!!!

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julie_danjenn wrote:

i was wondering if you would talk about men eating/tasting their own semen,it is not mentioned that often and i think if more people were aware that it is somewhat in the normal,then the people who feel the same way that i do could get a little comfort knowing this is a fetish that other people also like.i was so eembarrassed about it i was afraid to ask,until these kind people told me it was in fact ok,i thought i was into something that no one else liked,why is that,that people talk about all kinds of fantasies and fetishes,but this one noone does talk about?i mean is it really any worse than choking or being bullied around?or a foot fetish?i hink there should be a topic on the most extreme but normal/ok fetishes and fantasies,if you want to use my question(short version)lol,it is ok,i do not mind,i want others like me to not have to worry that their favorite fetish is something normal and nothing to be ashamed about.thanks for all of your help,it means alot.
Hello I am a male cum slut for my girl friend of 14 years, she makes me jack off some mornings into my coffee and then makes me drink it or I cum in her hand and she feeds it to me either finger at a time or the whole load.

After sex at night she often sits on my face and I stick my tongue in her pussy while she slides her finger in to open up more to make me drink her cum and my sperm at the same time

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I also love it when she fucks me in the ass or when I ride dildo's in front of her

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