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My 12 year old girlfriend wants to have sex with me, what should I do?

I'm 16

my girlfriend for 6 months said, out of no where, she feels so passionately for me that she wants me to be the one to take her virginity.

I said no, not yet. I want to wait until she is 16, which means waiting 4 years and I will be 20.

I feel I have made the right decision, but she told me recently that she doesn't want to wait! she said that i am the only one she wants to have sex with and that there is no reason to wait.

what should I do?

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If I where you, Id wait until you are both 18 and legal.

She is defiantly not ready buy any standards.

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Sex at the age of 12? What's her rush?

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You two need to have a long conversation. First you need to figure out why she is in such a rush. Next you need to make her very aware of the age difference and statutory rape [which is why it would be "safer" for you to wait untill she was 18]. Besides, isn't she a little young for you? Surprised her parents don't have a problem with it. When you figure out why she is in such a rush [make sure she is being honest\if you feel you have to, interrogate her friends but be descrete as possible with her friends] then make your decision. [Make sure she tells no one; cause you could be in some shit if any adults find out because of your age difference]

Best wishes. :cool:

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Well a very good reason, for you, is that you can be sent to jail while she's not the age of consent. For her, she needs to make absolutely sure that this is what she wants, she needs to be aware that during the period in life that she's about to enter that you tend to feel much more deeply towards things that perhaps you actually do, thus potentially leading to much regret later on. If she truly feels that way she says she does then there should be no problem in waiting. Also, a long time ago (and this may or may not be accurate) a very reliable friend, someone who deals with these topics on a frequent basis, told me that having sex that young may actually damage the reproductive organs (mainly in the case of females).

On an side note; The age difference here may imply certain connotations regarding both of your characters (my own belief based on my experiences). The fact that you are the one that is pushing to postpone having sex shatters those connotations, in my perspective. So for that I commend you, I know there are many guys who would not act in the same manner as you in that type of relationship that young, especially when she's the one pushing sex.

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When she said that to you, those were her hormones talking. I'm going to take a not-so-wild guess here and suppose that she is probably ovulating, maybe for the first time. When that happens, there is such a flurry of hormonal activity that a girl tends to have some very strong feelings and emotions, like intense sexual desire and a passionate feeling of being in love and wanting to consummate the relationship. These feelings are completely normal and happen to all of us, but acting on them is definitely not a good idea.

There are a number of reasons why you shouldn't go through with it.

1. It is very likely that she is fertile now and that she would get pregnant.

2. It is not likely that she is really physically and emotionally ready for that type of a relationship, even though she might feel she is.

3. As mentioned by the other respondents, it is illegal and you could be prosecuted and permanently stuck with the label of "child molester" even if it is consentual. (I know someone this has happened to.)

4. You two have only been together for 6 months. There is no way of knowing how long the relationship is going to last. If it doesn't and she falls in love with someone else later on, she will most likely regret not being a virgin for him (many people on this forum have said things like that).

5. If it does happen, it is probable that one way or another, people will find out. If her parents find out, it is likely they will forbid her to see you anymore. (I'm surprised they don't forbid it on general principle; I remember how hysterical my mother got when I wanted to date a high school boy when I was younger.) If the other kids at school find out, it will most likely have a detrimental effect on her dating and social life in the future. As the boys used to say when I was in high school, "Once the cake's been cut, everybody is going to get a piece."

You are definitely making the right decision by deciding to wait and I commend you for that. A lot of guys your age tend to think with their "other head" and if given the green light, would take the opportunity. You should explain that you are only trying to do what is best for her because you do care about her and that you are not rejecting her. Show your affection with kisses and hugs, but keep it G-rated because it may be too hard to stop if you start going too far.

What she probably needs right now is to find an older female friend or relative that she can talk to who can help her understand what is happening to her and help her to deal with her feelings.

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A 16 year old guy has no business dating a 12 year old girl. Period.

Not to mention that if her parents find out you had sex with her and decided to press charges, you would probably be tried as an adult for statutory rape.

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Exactly right! Suggest you act your age.

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She is just a kid she might think she is ready but that doesn't mean she won't regret it later. There is a chance she wants sex because she thinks you want it so I would wait if I was you. If you wait for her to be 16 and you will be twenty then that's sex with a minor and if her parents don't like you that could cause problems so I personally would wait till your married but at least wait untill your both legal adults

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This is pretty simple. Don't do anything illegal.

But really you should be asking yourself why you are dating a 12 year old.

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12 and 16 are big age difference when you are that young. 18 and 22 are much better. You need to wait until she is more mature. At 12, she must've barely matured so with her new hormones, she may not be thinking quite straight. Sex is not a race. No one will judge you for having it when the time is right and if they do, screw them.

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let me the guys to teach you hehe tell her ok but ill first go home to bath and after bahing tell heri need 2 eat and try to use ql the times on thing and soon whn she is ver yangry haha luckily chop chop witch mean ur unlucky that time cuz you got 2 sex wif her

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age is but a number you damn idiots

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Just have sex with her

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Let me relate a true story to you that I think applies here. When I was a 10 year old boy I used to play with the 12 year old girl who lived across the street from me. By "play" I mean in the conventional sense in which kids play. One afternoon after we had played for a while we were resting and became bored, not knowing what would be fun to do next. She (let me repeat, SHE) thought it would be a fun thing to show each other our pee-pees. We did that a few times over the next couple of days until SHE asked if she could touch my pee-pee. Jumping ahead, over the course of 3 or 4 weeks, she jerked me off, blew me, and had intercourse with me. Again, let me emphasize that all of these acts were things that SHE initiated and convinced me to try.

After several weeks of exploring everything sex, she told me that her mother did not want us playing together anymore. She was vague as to the reason her mother felt this way and simply told me that her mother wanted her to play with girls not boys. Shortly after that, they moved out of the neighborhood.

I did not see her again until until years later when I saw her at a high school function. I gave her a cheerful "hello" and all I got from her was one of those "if looks could kill" stares. She never said a word. By chance, I ran across her a few more times while still in school and she never said a thing, just more dirty looks.

It is quite clear that at some point she became resentful of what we did and seeing me reminded her of it. My point here is that she was 2 years older than me, everything we did was initiated by her. All I ever did was comply with her requests. Yet it wasn't long before she came to resent me and treat me as her worst enemy.

To this day, I really don't know for sure what happened. But I am convinced that had I been 16 instead of 10, I would have had hell to pay for simply doing what SHE wanted to do.

12 year old girls are sometimes too curious for their own good. And while they may seem happy while its going on and come back for more, you NEVER know when they are suddenly going to change their mind.

Your experience may well vary from mine, but what if it doesn't? What if a day, a week, or a month after the two of you have sex she does a sudden turnaround and comes to believe that you took advantage of her? What if out of guilt, she decides to confess all to her parents and her parents contact your parents and or the police?

Choose wisely.

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