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My boyfriend's foot fetish is ruining our relationship...

I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years now and for the last 2 and a half years our sex life has been basically non-existent. We have a great relationship otherwise and I am completely in love with him.

The problem is that he has a foot fetish and that is the only thing that turns him on. I don't have a problem with his fetish, in fact I used to enjoy it and got turned on by it in the first 2 years of our relationship. The problem is that he could go his whole life without having sex as long as he can masturbate to pictures of feet or have me stand on him while he masturbates. Apparently this was OK with his ex-wife who only required he rested his head on her pelvis and that would turn her on for her to masturbate.

I cannot go my whole life without passionate sex. I need the kissing, hugging, foreplay and all the other fun things that go along with good sex.

How do I turn him on to where he wants to do these things with me? Or is our relationship over?

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Mary: In reality, what makes relationships work is compatibility. In this case, your and his needs are simply very different and incompatible. That doesn't mean that there is anything wrong with either of you.

The only answer I can give you is this: "Are you prepared to live with this the rest of your life?" If not, then it's time to recognize the incompatibility now, rather than after the two of you have three kids being torn apart in a divorce. If this is something you can't make peace with, then the kindest thing for everyone is to end it now.

A vast difference in sexual appetites is one of the leading causes of relationship problems. People with these differences can stay together, but the relationship will never be very fulfilling for either of them. I'm afraid that's the situation you're in.


Hi Mary ,

i have a foot fetish also and i understand your situation..

i think you should talk with him honestly and tell him everything before finish your relation .. im sure he loves you also just give one more chance before over..

Take care..

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