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Will fisting permanently stretch my vagina?

I've heard that fisting is okay if done properly; gradually and with lots of lube. I've never tried it before but I recently slept with a guy that tried to fit his hand in my vagina. It felt good for the most part, I told him when it hurt, and he seemed experienced with it, but I'm definitely a little sore from it. I would try it again, but I'm worried that it will stretch my vagina out.

Is this true, and if so, how much will it stretch, a lot, or such a small amount that it would feel the same to a man's penis?

Is it worth it? It felt good to me, and I almost want to see how it feels to have his whole fist inside me; I can see that feeling really good.

Is there any danger to it, other than tearing from lack of lube or gradual insertion, or infections from a dirty hand?

I have the same question about anal sex; with proper stretching and lube, is it safe? Does it permanently stretch your rectum and/or cause problems down the road, like anal leakage?

Thanks for reading!

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I'm not totally sure, but I think it would adjust and become bigger.

For the anus that can be stretched as well I think, I think it can cause leakage.

I would use lots of lubricant for anal becasue if that tissue is broken it can get infected really easily and cause problems.

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<blockquote class="quote">I have the same question about anal sex; with proper stretching and lube, is it safe? Does it permanently stretch your rectum and/or cause problems down the road, like anal leakage?</blockquote>

i wouldn't do this. It can cause injury to the sphincter. Also, you'll end up with a nasty stretched out asshole with prolapsed hemorrhoids, etc.

A dick or a dildo should be enough.

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In response to the two people who already replied to my post:

When I asked about anal sex, I was asking about exactly that, anal sex, NOT anal fisting! My question in that respect was if regular anal sex causes any permanent damage if done properly.

My question is more specifically about vaginal fisting. Replies with "I'm not sure, but.." aren't very helpful, but thanks for trying.

Doesn't anybody have an answer for me?

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1: American Journal of Forensic Pathology 1989 Mar;10(1):73-5.

Vaginal "fisting" as a cause of death.

Fain DB, McCormick GM.

Forensic Pathologists, Inc., Bossier City, LA 71111.

We describe the death of a young girl that resulted from the insertion of a clenched hand and forearm into her vagina during heterosexual activity. (The male homosexual practice of rectal fist insertion has been described previously.) We believe this death to be the first reported case of a "fisting" death due to vaginal fist insertion during heterosexual activity. This death is reported to alert forensic pathologists, medicolegal death investigators, and coroners aware of the role of aberrant sexual activity and its potential to cause death.

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Beagle, I wanted to let you know that the article about death cause by vaginal fisting was NOT helpful to me in any way. This is a sexual act that people practice, and I wouldn't be surprised if that death was one of very few, and was caused by rape or abuse.

Do you want me to say to my partner, "Please dont put your fingers in there, you might kill me,"? Giving out advice like yours can be a huge sexual deterrent to people who aren't smart enough to ignore it. Consider yourself lucky that I'm not a young, impressionable girl who doesn't know better than to never let a man put a finger in my vagina again.

Thanks for the bad advice.

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Normal anal sex, if performed properly, will not cause any of the problems you described.

As for vaginal fisting...unless your pregnant and dilating, I wouldn't.

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It hasn't been more than a day since I asked this question, but I feel like so far I have gotten AWFUL advice on the topic, from an article about death by vaginal fisting, to "unless you're pregnant and dilating, I wouldn't."

Okay, how about knowing what you're talking about before you give advice?

After getting annoyed with the awful advice I got here, I did more research into the topic. Here is what I found at The "Cindy and Joe" Data Archive.

There are many medical problems where fisting should not be done. Mostly these are not so common, but they exist. Sometimes previous surgery, low hormones, infections, radiation treatments, and advanced age can be contraindications altogether.

As to loss of sensation, most who practice Kegel exercises do not experience that. If you wish your wife to be very tight at times, and at other times do fisting, make sure she does enough Kegel exercises every day to maintain that ability.

Those who do not do exercises are more apt to have a possible looseness and trouble feeling a penis as well as before. Many couples that do fisting do not mind that at all. If they do, these couples usually use a "spoon position" with the penis and a hand "both" in the vagina at the same time. That way they avoid diminished sensation problems and both can get stimulation at the same time.

So in summary I don't feel that I have experienced any negative effects of fisting, even though my cunt has become loose as a result of my failure to do the Kegel exercises consistently.

Now as to physical benefits, that is mostly in making it easier for childbirth with less likelyhood of tears and surgery at that time. Specifically with those who do regular associated Kegels (as many do) it helps with vaginal tone and sometimes with the bladder function. It is often helpful in those who suffer constipation.

For women who like fisting, they tell me that it is the very best sex they've ever had, by a significant margin. :-)

I really hope that those who replied to my post trying to help in turn help themselves to understand that when giving advice, make sure that it is CORRECT. Please. It appears that most of the questions on this site are asked by impressionable, unknowledgable, young people, and I do NOT want to see them getting bad advice! Back it up with evidence and make sure that your answer is, indeed, a correct one.

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Well, I'm not mad or anything but let me state this.

1. We are not paid.

2. We can only help with what we know our selves.

3. We usually try to give the best advice that we can.

4. Most of us are in our teens to maybe 60's :o :p .

5. Most of us don't have a degree in anything. Usually not close to anything sex related.

I'm not mad, just want you to be aware of this factor. My disclaimer was put there for a reason. I do apologize for not being to answer your question fully, I do try my best with everything I know though.

Just trying to help as much as I can.

Please understand that I am trying to give you the best opinion that I can think of.

You can take my advice or leave it as you please.

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I'm glad that you aren't mad, because if you were, you'd have to be psychotic! Mad at what, the fact that I answered my own question a million times better than any of you did? Mad that I'm upset about getting some extremely bad advice? Mad about the fact that I gave you criticism for being a 19 yr old that feels like he has to answer every post, even if its from a 60 yr old man asking about erectile dysfunction?

If you don't know the correct answer, DON'T ANSWER! Its that simple. If you answer with the wrong advice, people will believe you and go on thinking that you are right. If you answer with an answer that isn't helpful, you're hurting that person's chance to get other replies with a correct answer because it looks like their question was already answered.

1. We are not paid.

I know you aren't paid, neither am I, and I answered a bunch of questions today with extremely helpful, correct information.

2. We can only help with what we know our selves.

No, actually, you have access to the most amazing information ever - its called the internet, and thats what I used to get the right answers. If you aren't beyond a doubt positive that your info is the truth, research it yourself before you tell it to someone else, and make sure your research is correct too, because the internet also provides lots of wrong information.

3. We usually try to give the best advice that we can.

But you give advice even if it isnt helpful at all. That doesn't help.

4. Most of us are in our teens to maybe 60's .

So let the 60 yr olds answer the 60 yr old questions!

5. Most of us don't have a degree in anything. Usually not close to anything sex related.

I have a degree and 11 years on you, I've got a feeling I know a ton more about this stuff than you do, and I plan to join you in answering more people's questions on this site.

Sorry to critique you and upset you but I really felt like you needed some advice yourself! If you can dish it you should be able to take it. Thanks for hearing me out and have a great day!

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MountainGirl wrote:

2. We can only help with what we know our selves.

No, actually, you have access to the most amazing information ever - its called the internet, and thats what I used to get the right answers.

Then I guess you came to the wrong place for the right answers then. Why didn't you just google.

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Although your vagina will be more elastic.

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My wife and I have been enjoying fisting for around 4 years now. Her not me, LOL. Although there has been a very slight loosening and just a slight difference in her lips, we would not stop for the world. She now has extreme orgasms and at times squirts!

Our advice to anyone would be try it....:)

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I would assume that would hurt!! It doesnt' hurt?? Wow!! I gotta find more information on this subject!!

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I regularly fist my girlfriend, she had never tried it before she met me as she felt a little scared about trying it. Lots and lots of lube and patience is required and trust between the two of you, now I can fist her with ease and nearly to the point of double fisting which results in the most intense screaming orgasms she has ever experienced, it also gives something to bear down on when coming so frequently results in her ejaculating. As for whether she has got looser, that is not something that concerns me as I hate the feeling of being crushed by someone too small. The vagina is very muscular so as long as you keep up your kegal exercises (the ability to contract and squeeze your pelvic floor muscles) then fisting will not cause any problems. I insist that my girlfriend uses Ben Wa balls a couple of times a week to keep herself in check, these come in several sizes if your new to it and dont want to end up losing one then i suggest buying a pair that are joined together with a retrieval string lovehoney does a great starter set in red.

Anyone that hasn't given it a go I cannot recommend it enough, there is a great book on the Art of fisting on Amazon entitled "A hand in the Bush" by Deborah Addington which is a great read with lots of useful advice.

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How does it feel

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That death by fisting case was on drugs and done with force. Fisting is a safe and wonderful act if done properly. Slow and lots and lots of lube. Me and my gf started this kind of action on our late teen years and done it about 6 yrs now and she has not gone any roomy or loose. Still grips awerage penis good. :)

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No. Or women would walk around with a stretched out vagina from childbirth. Your skin is full of elasticity. So do it. ;)

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I regularly fist my wife. She absolutely loves and comes like a fountain! She has very good feeling with penile sex too, this also makes her come hard. I would not worry about stretching, get stuck in!

We also indulge in occaissional anal sex, this also makes my wife come and she thoroughly enjoys it.

Go for it!!!! And enjoy!!!

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Hi! I tried fisting for the first time a few days ago. It was unplanned but it felt so great I went with it (when he actually explained what he was doing, I was like are you serious!! It's so big!! hahaha). And it felt, OMG, AMAZING. Really intense. Lots of lube was used, and we built up to it over a few hours. I was extremely aroused too. Partner was very gentle with it and patient. Afterward though, feeling abit battered ... still slightly tender. We had intercouse after the fisting too, and although a little looser at first, I was gripping him just fine after a little bit. Have not had a check since then but can get back to you about the stretching. So although not something I would do all the time, I am now a huge fan. Found the later comments really helpful :) I would say if you are interested definately give it a go!

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Hey Mountain Girl.....

Three years later, Im guessing you went ahead with with the vaginal fisting & anal!?

I have been practising both for several years.....im 29 & began getting the craving to fill myself when I was about 19.

At this point I regularaly fist both my vagina & ass at least once a week.

I use some big dildos as well as housebhold items.....

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Hey Mountain Girl,

I have the same question as you. I got stretched out from some really rough fisting and now I can't grip properly. I feel like I can't use my Kegel muscles as well as I could before. How did it turn out for you? Was there some exercises that worked well for you?

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We have recently(last 6 months) added fisting to our fun. Be careful and he HAS to listen to your responces and body. Also he has to be careful to clean his hands well. Later in the fun session, her vagina is stretched out but the effect does not seem lasting. As far as anal, it has been a regular part of our sexual relationship for almost 20 years now and she has no physical issues that I know of resulting from it. In fact, she requests anal!

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I enjoy both anal and fisting.

Clean hands, trimmed nails (no rough spots), and lube are a must. A man or woman who listens to what you like or don't like is a must too. If it is too rough, tell them to slow down or stop for a moment. If/when you're ready they can start again. As far as I can tell, there are no long term results from fisting... except maybe right afterwards. Hell after pushing out an almost 10 pound kid if I was going to be stretched out, that would have caused it. LOL

Anal is like fisting. You need a partner who listens and good lube. Don't try to go straight to something large like a penis either. Maybe stat with a pinky and work your way up. We've had anal for years now and he still doesn't just jump right in, but starts me with a warm up even if it is just a finger or two. With anal I haven't had any problems from anal leakage. Not sure how TMI you want to go. After he comes in my during anal, there have been times I've have some "wet farts" but nothing that has lasted. Usually that is from if I don't "go" afterwards.

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This is an old thread, but YES, fisting will permanently stretch your vagina "over time"! I might as well have just said it would because after you stretch yourself and are able to do it once, you will be doing it all the time!!!

Take it slow, do your kegels every day and you can work up to fisting every day!

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Ok this will actually help you. I "fist" my wife on a fairly regular basis. We have done this for several years now. Your vagina will naturally "shrink" over time (days or less). To the point where the penise of an average sized guy would not ever know you loved the larger play. The only caution is be sure you do not force the fist before the vagina is ready. If you do you can rip the muscles. If the muscles rip it doesn't necessarily mean you will be permanently loose but it will mean you cannot stretch as easily later. Now to the anal. Anal sex is completely safe as long as you follow the one and only rule. LUBE! Lots of it, this is not just for the entry point. The inside needs to be lubed. If possible use a lube injector to get some inside the anus before you penetrate. As far as stretching permanently, again allow the muscles to stretch and your fine. The anus is actually more accommodating to stretching than the vagina and will return to original size with in minutes to hours with a little sourness for a couple days which some find arousing. Basically my advise it this. HAVE FUN. GO AT A PACE YOU FEEL COMFORTABLE WITH. UNLESS YOU ARE GOING LIKE A CIRCUS FREAK YOU WILL BE MORE THAN FINE. you will be satisfied.

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Hi,

Maybe this will help; I can only speak of vaginal fisting I

am not into anal fisting for myself. It takes time, patience, and a trust

between fister and fistee. It’s not for everyday use but more of an occasional

change for those times you’re both pretty twisted. (And you need to be twisted and very lubed)

But the reward is the most awesome feeling and orgasm you could ever imagine.

As for permanently stretching the vagina "no worries” (unless you are

being fisted very frequently) I step up the kegels a few notches for a couple

of days afterward (and on our occasions my husband will fist me once and a bit

later again. Only because I beg him too and it’s a bit easier the second go

round! So women you are not going to ruin

your sex life by trying it. It may not be for everyone but I cannot imagine

why. My man thinks it is hotter than

hell and I love everything about it. Hope this relieved some anxiety for some

of you. Good Luck!

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