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Now before I start i want to list somethings about this so there arent any confusions. 1: Those of you who have viewed previous threads by me may have heard about my current girlfriend. Yes I do still love her, i have no intention of cheating or anything like that. I despise cheating.
2: The girl I will talk about in this is an ex of mine, but i do not have any feeling (not even hatred or anger) towards her what so ever.
3: This is not a thread asking for love help, yes i know what type of forum this is, but it still falls under this category in my book because I did date her.
Now with that said, I'll begin.
A while back, i met this asian girl who i liked a bit. I started talking to her trying to become friends. But it appears she had the same want (dating) as I did. So after a few weeks of being friends and getting to know each other, it climbed the ladder gradually and reached the relationship level. She made me very very happy, and we had so much in common. She had a twin, and her twin had a boyfriend. He and I met and also became good friends. But he betrayed me, he lied to my girlfriend and because she knew him longer she trusted him and I lost her the first time. later around, the guy tried to antagonize me, bragging about dating both of them. That did hurt me at the time, but I also remembered that he is a liar much like a thief and in turn of rage I punched him in the face causing him to bleed and explained to him the pathetic of shit he was as he layed on the ground. He again lied to my ex and she began to hate me. I tried to get around to her and explain, but she wouldnt listen.
After a year the twins finally found out the liar that he was, but I wasnt rly redeemed. When I found out, I decided to take a chance and see if I could revive the relationship. With success, she dated me again. As before, she made me happy, yadda yadda yadda, and was glad she was back. The one day she decided it was over, and blurted out that everything she ever said to me was a lie. Her name, her interests, love for me, everything. (except for gender and the physical features of course.) And I left without a word. I didnt cry, and neither did i cry the first time. (havent cried since I was five when my best friend died, i just worked up resistance to crying. ) I did inform her of that, but this entire thing with her was a lie.
And after a couple years of not saying a word, she messaged me out of nowhere, saying that she was trying to turn her life around and quit being a bitch and asked for forgiveness saying she cant move on without being forgiven by all those she hurt.
I just replied, You'll get my forgiveness when I feel u have deserved it, but dont expect it to be a cake walk like the other times. I said that december 2008 if memory serves correctly. nd she has messaged me a few more times pleading, each time i say be patient i have things to do(which i rly do have many things going on.) and she replies saying i hate her and she knows i do. I reply saying I dont hate her, i just dont acknowledge her as anything in my life worth value. (in simplier terms, just dont care about her at all but i dont think of revenge or anything.) A very close friend of mine who i trust dearly, said to me last week that he thinks i may be being a little too hard on her redemption. ABSOLUTLY NO ONE ELSE (even me) thinks im being too hard on her. We all think its fair, and something she needs to do if she wants to prove to any of us that she means what she says.
The question is, am I being too hard, or is it right/fair for me not to believe her that easy and voluntarily work towards my forgiveness?
2: The girl I will talk about in this is an ex of mine, but i do not have any feeling (not even hatred or anger) towards her what so ever.
3: This is not a thread asking for love help, yes i know what type of forum this is, but it still falls under this category in my book because I did date her.
Now with that said, I'll begin.
A while back, i met this asian girl who i liked a bit. I started talking to her trying to become friends. But it appears she had the same want (dating) as I did. So after a few weeks of being friends and getting to know each other, it climbed the ladder gradually and reached the relationship level. She made me very very happy, and we had so much in common. She had a twin, and her twin had a boyfriend. He and I met and also became good friends. But he betrayed me, he lied to my girlfriend and because she knew him longer she trusted him and I lost her the first time. later around, the guy tried to antagonize me, bragging about dating both of them. That did hurt me at the time, but I also remembered that he is a liar much like a thief and in turn of rage I punched him in the face causing him to bleed and explained to him the pathetic of shit he was as he layed on the ground. He again lied to my ex and she began to hate me. I tried to get around to her and explain, but she wouldnt listen.
After a year the twins finally found out the liar that he was, but I wasnt rly redeemed. When I found out, I decided to take a chance and see if I could revive the relationship. With success, she dated me again. As before, she made me happy, yadda yadda yadda, and was glad she was back. The one day she decided it was over, and blurted out that everything she ever said to me was a lie. Her name, her interests, love for me, everything. (except for gender and the physical features of course.) And I left without a word. I didnt cry, and neither did i cry the first time. (havent cried since I was five when my best friend died, i just worked up resistance to crying. ) I did inform her of that, but this entire thing with her was a lie.
And after a couple years of not saying a word, she messaged me out of nowhere, saying that she was trying to turn her life around and quit being a bitch and asked for forgiveness saying she cant move on without being forgiven by all those she hurt.
I just replied, You'll get my forgiveness when I feel u have deserved it, but dont expect it to be a cake walk like the other times. I said that december 2008 if memory serves correctly. nd she has messaged me a few more times pleading, each time i say be patient i have things to do(which i rly do have many things going on.) and she replies saying i hate her and she knows i do. I reply saying I dont hate her, i just dont acknowledge her as anything in my life worth value. (in simplier terms, just dont care about her at all but i dont think of revenge or anything.) A very close friend of mine who i trust dearly, said to me last week that he thinks i may be being a little too hard on her redemption. ABSOLUTLY NO ONE ELSE (even me) thinks im being too hard on her. We all think its fair, and something she needs to do if she wants to prove to any of us that she means what she says.
The question is, am I being too hard, or is it right/fair for me not to believe her that easy and voluntarily work towards my forgiveness?
