Am I weird for wanting a real spanking?

in Sex and Intimacy » BDSM - Bondage, Domination, Submission • 3 years ago

Since I was fifteen years old, I hava had a desire to be spanked by a woman. It's a real turn on for me, but so difficult to find the right woman to do it. I got married 17 years later to the perfect wife, but she has NO interest in fulfilling my desire to be spanked sexually. I am not talking about getting a few slaps while we are having sex - it's more like me being put over her lap and being spanked hard with a paddle. When I first told her about it, she freaked - and I haven't brought it up again since. Any ideas?

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Beagle

Two sides...

3 years ago

Remember, there are two very distinct perspectives here.

One, what you is not immoral, unhealthy, or currently illegal. It's normal to be curious.

Two, I can understand your wife being freaked out by it. A lot of women need to see their man as strong and in control. Seeing you in this position of vulnerability could be a real turn-off for her. Some women are turned on by it, however. I think the applicable term here is "preference." Submission is a common fantasy among women and she may be freaked out by seeing you want to take a submissive role.

Please don't try to pressure your wife into something she's just not into. You might want to try giving her a gentle playful spanking and see if she becomes more comfortable with it, with her consent of course. Some fantasies are best left as just that, fantasies.