Ask Dan & Jennifer

In reading your post, I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "share." Are you wanting to "share" with your wife how you feel, or are you thinking about opening your marriage to include male sexual partners for you? If you're thinking of an "open" relationship or a "swinging" arrangement, there are a lot of things to be considered. For example, would this also involve being open to same-sex partners for her? What about male partner's for her?

If you're considering opening your marriage to extra-marital sexual activity, that inherently opens a lot of other issues, and you and she need to make sure you are in agreements about expectations and boundaries. I know couple's that have done that successfully, but I know others whose marriages have ended because of "Swinging" or "open relationships."

From the scientific perspective, studies on sexual response have shown that most men have a stong physiological response to erotic images of either men or women but not both. Very few (statistically) are equally aroused by both. Most women have a significant physical reaction to erotic images to men and women.

Actually what I meant was to share how I feel with people that have an understanding of what it`s like to have these thoughts and desires.I would not damage my relationship with my wife because of my own selfish desires.I am just trying to understand what goes on in this brain of mine and hopefully I can do this with people that are dealing with some of the same issues.I can get a little offline at times mostly because of nerves but that was my point.

From the scientific perspective, studies on sexual response have shown that most men have a stong physiological response to erotic images of either men or women but not both. Very few (statistically) are equally aroused by both. Most women have a significant physical reaction to erotic images to men and women.

This says it all.
This is what I've known to be true, regardless of what anyone tries to say to convince me otherwise.
Women can be bi
Men are either Gay, Straight, or in denial.
Not that there's anything wrong with that.

I was sexualized by male friends when I was 10 and I was repulsed by it. I didn't want to participate. To this day I know my response to both genders.
I doubt that anyone has an equal response to pictures of males or females. If they were to get honest, one or the other illicits more of a response.

I get this response a lot and I just don`t really understand why I can feel the way I do and I know that I love my wife with all my heart and she is my everything,My feminine side has always been outfront with anyone I have ever been involved with whether male or female.I can deal with the crossdressing because I`ve learned that it`s part of who I am.But I do have desires to be with a man, I can control them feelings to a point.I also have some of the same desires for women,and that could be a result of my crossdressing and the participation that a woman contributes to that.More men reject crossdressing than do women,at least in my lifetime.I have had more male partners in my life than women but I have dealt with more rejection from men than from women.So I feel more secure with a woman but sexually I do prefer a man,I still enjoy sex with a woman.This is so confusing and I do see your point but I still think there may be a third avenue and I may be there(Don`t quite know).

I think it's telling that you chose a feminine screen name. I'm not sure where to tell you to go with this, but you might want to consider a counselor with training in sexual-orientation issues. This is very complex and is going to take a lot of time to unravel. I suspect that you're eventually going to decide that your primary attraction is to men. Obviously, I'm not saying you don't love your wife, or even enjoy sex with her, but it seems like you're mainly oriented to men. I'm going to bet that you often fantasize about sex with men while having sex with women. Of course, that's just me shooting in the dark but if that is the case then it's food for thought. In your community, there might be some form of support group that could also be very helpful. I haven't been in your situation, so I'm not sure to what extent I can relate.

hijk980 is trying to hijack some people to try his px90
Go somewhere else

Right on., I wish these spammers would move out of their parents' basement and get real jobs.

got them, removed all their posts and banned their IPs.

LOL banned a bit too broadly a few weeks ago and while it was VERY effective, we were getting complaints from legitimate users not being able to access the forums. argh. so back to more fine grained blocking. :-)

-- Dan