Ask Dan & Jennifer

I believe you shouldn't be with either women. If your girlfriend isn't right for you then you should tell her that and move on. She will be made but is better off finding out now then spending the next couple of months wasting her time.

"likes attract likes" You are on the same level as this other girl that you like, Both of you stay in relationships that aren't working but leak sexual energy outside of the relationship (flirting with other people).

The problem you will run into if you leave one girl for another is leaking sexual energy. The new girl (or you) will leak sexual energy when your relationship isn't going as smoothly. You will possibly do the same.

I suggest learning to have loyalty, honesty and integrity or you will attract the same type of girls (leaks sexual energy) over and over.

If you decide to leave your current girlfriend the one issue you might run into is guilt or obligation to stay with her. You don't owe anyone anything. It's best to cut a relationship short when it's clearly not working than to drag one out for months making both people more miserable.

The problem is that i don't know which one i want to be with. Because i want to be with one of them. I don't really want to just end up being single looking for another girl. Where i live there's not many girls of my type around. It can be tricky. I just don't want to loose one to find out that this other girl is happy with who she is, then end up upset and lonely because i dumped my girlfriend for her.

Gah i'm so confused i hate it. :(

Ask her. The non-girlfriend girl-does she want to go out with you? Has she actually said anything in that direction?
If yes, are you sure you like her in that way. If yes, try it, but don't forget there's still a chance it might not work out.
If no to the first question, then stay in your current relationship.
If no to the second, stay in your relationship.

Relationships between the same sort of people are fine; the similarities don't mean you're leaking sexual energy, they can help a relationship to stay together, but that doesn't mean relationships between dfifferent personalities won't work. Almost any relationship will work, as long as you try hard enough.

well, do you think it would be a good idea to give it time and see how things play out?

i don't think i'm ready to make a decision yet.

Well, naturally you should see how things are playing out, but don't miss your chance.
If the other girl is flirty, maybe she is into you-but don't disappoint her by missing your chance. if she does feel that way about you, and you feel that way about her, then you know what to do.
Oh, and something else that occured to me while rereading your post: It sounds like you and your current girlfriend aren't very happy together as it is. are you sure you want to stay with her?

well no we're not the best of couples. We had an argument today actually. It resulting in her having a panic attack, us getting nowhere, and me feeling even more shitty. ( i tried to split up with her).

I can't split up with her, i don't have the will power. I just can't do it!
Help me.

Well, sorry, but if you don't have the will power to split up, then there's nothing you can do.
The only advice i can think of is, if you really can't split up with her, get her to split up with you. As you said, you aren't close, so you know what she won't like. better yet, if you know what she does like, and you have a friend who feels something for her (happens more than you think. just ask them) then tell them how to make her like them.
Or you could bite the bullet (I hope that metaphor works. I never figured out what that one actually means) and try to break up with her. Take Alexstrandberg's advice.

'If you decide to leave your current girlfriend the one issue you might run into is guilt or obligation to stay with her. You don't owe anyone anything. It's best to cut a relationship short when it's clearly not working than to drag one out for months making both people more miserable. '

I hope this helps.

The grass isn't always greener on the other side. If you really do love your girlfriend, then stop letting other women know you are interested. If you want to move on, do not drag your girlfriend along.
Breaking up hurts, and it sucks, but if the two of you are not happy together, then it maybe time to move on...
good luck....:o

because you are unhappy most of the time. If thing's workout with the other girl, then good for you. But beware that some girls are only interested in guys who are already taken. You'll find out for yourself.