Ask Dan & Jennifer

How did you handle it with your first girlfriend?

If it worked for her really well then I would try to use the same tacit for this one.

If that's not able to be done then try to lay it on her lightly. Try to hint to her that there is something up with you and that fetish. If you can do that just straight up tell her that its something you really enjoy and tell her not to be too offended.

From what I understand this is one of the mildest fetishes I have ever heard of. Who doesn't love balloons.

Well to be honest xero I don't exactly know how I handled it. because before we started dating we chatted on-line about it telling each other our little kinks and at the time I was reserved and shy about it kind of scared to tell anyone really and I kind of just blurted it out persay. When she "treated me" like I said she took it upon herself to blow the balloons up I never asked her to do it. This girl now I really adore and love her, but I'm scared because I don't know how she would react to it because I would like her to become involved with it since it adds that little bit of magic towards sex in my mind.

And your right balloons is a mild fetish it's not extreme in the slightest.

I think you should sit down and just tell her. I don't think it will be that big of a problem with her.

If your not able to do that then some way hint that you have a fetish of some sort. But I find this harder because your not going directly to the issue and she might find it to be something else than balloons.

You could also write her a note about it and give it to her. Just stand there until shes done reading it to answer any questions she may have about it. Then you two can talk about it together.

this is a very dificult question, how to tell your girlfriend you have a fetish, i had the same problume a little while ago with my AB/DL fetish. evetualy i just desided to come right out and tell her, not one of my better ideas beacuse her reaction was,

"uhh what the hell is wrong with you sicko!"

however AB/DL is much more hardcore of a fetish than balloons. i misjugded my girlfriend on that one and now im down a girlfriend so to speak but a baloon fetish i dont know its odd yes but its not that taboo of a feitsh, personaly i dont like balloons, the feel the poping UHH it just makes me uncomfterbule i dont know quiet why but if your into it then thats good i still would not spring it on her if you can the shock alown could cause a negative reaction. but i wouldnt take it to slow thers seems to be and art to telling a girl about a fetish regardless of what it is
so to awnser you question i would take is slow but not to slow if you can.
at any rate good luck.

blessed be,

Hatez

Everyone has secret desires, fantasies, etc. What's normal to one person is freaky and kinky to another, and vice versa, so it is... Our own personal rule of what's "OK" is simple: consenting adults + nobody gets hurt. That's our box of what's "OK".

There's something to be said for being with the "right" person for you... if you have to live your life in fear of what might happen if your partner finds out your secret, there's a problem. Secrets tend to always come out...
And being able to share those with your partner truly enhances your sex life - and your relationship - many times over. It's a wonderful thing. that's one reason we're very pro on long term relationships - over time you build a strong bond with your partner and your life (and sex life) is richer for it.

What is he/she responds negatively?

Friends, so is life. Some you win and some you lose. But if you live in fear or losing something, knowing down deep that you may lose it any day, that's no way to live. Face the situation.

what's most important is to be true to yourself and at peace with who you are.

"uhh what the hell is wrong with you sicko!"

Hatez - that is so sad, very sorry to hear it. But you discovered that she wasn't the right person for you... and I like to say better sooner than later. That said, maybe once she got over her initial shock, perhaps she reconsidered?

But HOW to introduce your partner to your fantasy/fetish/etc?

Now that the "fear" angle is out of the way... let's try to be smart about this. If your'e going to present a new thing to your partner, something about yourself that you've been keeping secret, don't just sit down and come out with it.

You can, but blunt may not always be the best approach. A slower introduction while gauging response may be your best bet. Because the shock of a big surprise all at once may lose your chance to make your case.

And this gets back to why it's so important to share your fantasies (start small!) with your partner... because you open up to one another and share your desires, and slowly you build up to the bigger topics that might have otherwise been a shock if "delivered cold".

We've done a number of video segments on sharing your fetish/fantasy with your partner, hopefully some of these will be helpful.

Cross Dressing Confession: How Should You Tell Her?

Is Cross Dressing A Turn Off To Women?

How Do I Introduce BDSM To My Boyfriend?

Shoe Fetish - I Want A Partner To Enjoy My Fetish With Me

Are Sexual Fetishes Bad? How About Kinky Sexual Fantasies?

And while we're at it, here's perhaps the most controversial one we've talked about to date (that was a surprise, but anyway)...

Watching My Wife Get Banged By A Well Endowed Man... (Cuckold Sex Fantasy)

The main point behind sharing the above video segments is to show some other similar situations... with couples dealing with and together exploring various fantasy / fetish / kink topics...

Good luck!!! let us know how it goes!