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Well, to relive your mind, losing an erection has nothing to do with being gay or straight. . I'm willing to bet it was just a simple case of nerves. Next time, instead of rushing it, ease into it. Create a relaxed atmosphere and enjoy just being with her. Lay off alcohol before. Like Shakespeare says, it enhances the desire but kills the performance. Relax, and just enjoy being with a lovely woman, and I'll bet things will turn out OK.

The key lies in what you were thinking just before intercourse. Was there fear of losing your erection, religious fear, or fear of disappointing her? Any of these conflicts can cause a man to lose an erection. Is there any guilt or mixed feelings about your partner? As you identify these, you can learn to talk back to any irrational thoughts you might be having.

These are tapping techniques that release trapped stress in the body. Go to EFT Home - World Center for EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) for a free ebook and go to YouTube for video demonstrations.

Harry: The EFT- Are there any placebo controlled studies demonstrating it's effectiveness?

Originally posted by: Beagle
Harry: The EFT- Are there any placebo controlled studies demonstrating it's effectiveness?

It's free and there are 1000s of success stories.

Harry: Any critical thinker is going to care. The reason is a phenomenon in research called "spontaneous remission." If you take a group of people with any given diagnosis, some of them are going to get better independently of any treatment. Also, you have the placebo effect due to power of suggestion. That's why throwing a dead cat over your head in a cemetery at midnight cures warts. Recently, a knee surgery was submitted to a placebo-controlled trial in which some people received the arthroscopic surgery and some just received an incision and sutures. The incision-only group actually recovered more function with less pain than the "treatment" group. Psychoanalysis also had similar results when it was subjected to rigorous clinical trials. TV faith healers get good results because they basically trick the brain into releasing endorphins which relieve pain and produce a mild euphoria. By the time the endorphins wear off, the person is back home thinking what a great guy the faith healer is.

Scientific evidence is what separates the scientists from the snake-oil salesmen. In the modern era, health-care consumers have to be educated and sophisticated. Actually, the reason I asked you the question about the scientific studies is that I would consider learning it and implementing it into my practice if it met standards for an effective treatment. For example, EMDR is a treatment for trauma that sounds extremely flaky. It treats trauma by incorporating visualization exercises with eye movements that simulate REM sleep. I was extremely skeptical, until I saw the placebo controlled studies showing a 70% (complete) success rate for PTSD, and significantly better than placebo. Therefore, I contacted the institute and became trained to use it.

I think you give a lot of good advice. We differ on some moral issues, but that's fine because we're both adults. I do think there is an obligation to make sure that a procedure has demonstrated effectiveness before it's promoted as a treatment for a medical condition, however.

But now I don't because I'm no longer at university. I'm in the real world. If I gave the advice I give at university I would barely get a passing grade.

In the real world, the only thing that matters is results. Can you solve the problem or achieve the goal, right now, without breaking the bank, law or your moral code?
If you can, then keep doing that.

There's a placebo effect in just about every therapy. You don't have to say EFT will cure the problem. All you have to say is "Come and see me, I'll do my thing and I'll make your problem go away. If I don't, I'll do something else. If that doesn't work, I'll give you your money back."

By the way, any critical DOER will test EFT for themselves. And EFT is already promoted by several medical doctors, especially DR Deepak Chopra. A lot of doctors don't like EFT because it's free, works fast and the patient can learn to do it themselves. That means that don't make any money from selling pharmaceuticals to them for the rest of their lives. The standards for "an effective treatment" are controlled by the FDA, a corrupt organisation.