Ask Dan & Jennifer

tame brainstorming:

1. use silk ties
2. blindfold him
3. tie him to bedposts or a chair
4. gently bite him on neck
5. when you get him tied up, tease him with cock worship/oral. or tease him with feather duster, ice cube, your hair, run it down his body, over his crotch etc.
6. if you have time go to home depot and get rope from rope aisle, get the soft kind
7. you really need to learn some good knots, get a book on japanese bondage for next time, it will show you some good techniques and cover safety tips
8. another advanced tip: when he's tied up, play with his ass. :)
9. Make sure he has a safeword he can use if it gets to be too much!

Originally posted by: KathyJoe
I just need a couple tamer ideas to do with my boy tonight. :o I have never played top or dominant. I like this idea but I tie him up and then what? Spelling things out for me is best. I tend to be dense.

Agreeing with Dan&Jen[3&8] sounds the best,now[being a female sub].I would also suggest a spanking[my fetish],so you'll have to know his limits.As an observer my mistress's husband loves the strapon[that might be to soon],but loves the teasing,espically being denied orgasm while she uses his tongue[sitting on his face] and riding him,using his erection for herself.She puts a c**k ring on him and will give it some slaps,some loving kisses and then leaves him there for periods of time.if this is just a role play you can have fun using him.once I am bound i love to be used in anyway he or she wishes.if he is submissive and wants this regularly you can have more fun!!...Just my opinion

Just to add to what the others have already said...

To me, his asking to be tied indicates that he wants you to take a controlling position - to dominate him.

If you're both new at this, start very slowly and try several things to see what gets you both excited.

Tying him up is just one component of dominating him and that just may be the only thing he could think of to introduce the topic. Try that first. But maybe also try other types of bondage gear like cuffs, collars, leashes, gags, etc.

But again, take it slow and experiment with roles. This could be the beginning of some really exciting sex to come!

Maybe try, perhaps after applying some pink nail polish, placcing your feet and toes in hs face. Nudge and play with his nose. Shove your big toe in his mouth.

Originally posted by: paul
Maybe try, perhaps after applying some pink nail polish, placcing your feet and toes in hs face. Nudge and play with his nose. Shove your big toe in his mouth.

That's definitely an idea to consider, but I'd tread cautiously... some guys have foot fetishes and some definitely don't, so that could backfire. at least be sure you've showered first. :-)

Whatever you do, watch and listen and pay close attention to how he's responding, to the cues he's giving you... so you'll know which way to proceed and what he likes best.

Dan

Yes, I did think about the bathing first, and should have mentioned it; And proceed slowly. Great points.

Originally posted by: paul
Yes, I did think about the bathing first, and should have mentioned it; And proceed slowly. Great points.

And there's no right/wrong, just different perspectives, which is awesome. that's what's truly helpful. :-)

-- Dan

Originally posted by: Dan And Jennifer
That's definitely an idea to consider, but I'd tread cautiously... some guys have foot fetishes and some definitely don't, so that could backfire. at least be sure you've showered first. :-)

Whatever you do, watch and listen and pay close attention to how he's responding, to the cues he's giving you... so you'll know which way to proceed and what he likes best.

Dan

Oh yeah, I agree with you here.

Anyhow, just make sure to ask him first. I, personally, like to look at well kept feet, but I don't like the idea of having them near my face.