Ask Dan & Jennifer

in heartbreak there is no respite.a saying goes "of all the words of song and pen....the saddest of these....it might have been"you will never fully recover from a lost love especially when it ended while you were still fully in love...yes you wil go on and please use this pain to learn from because it will happen again....and again...and again.and each time you learn what you do want what you dont want and what you can and cannot have in a relationship.to try to escape the pain is futile....just cry it out,one day it will not hurt as much

let me share an experience....when i was younger i loved a man in the service,he opted as a lifetime carreer and i waited patiently.i saw other men since we had an open relationship which was nice because i never truly got too lonely,but there were times i would cry to this little star id allocated as mine ,me and this star shared a lot of tears as i waited for him to come home,he was home all of a year when he decided hed fallen in love with a very very young girl .my heart was not just broken it was shattered,i cried uncontrollably for 4 days and almost had to be hospitalized due to dehydration from not even eating or drinking a thing for those days......fast forward 5 years....i am happily married to jerome,the greatest man on earth,he is my best friend my lover my comic relief and a wonderful father to our two crackhead cats.....he makes love to me like i didnt know men were capable of,he revels in killing me through orgasm,he washes the dishes,cleans the litterboxes and mows 4 acres of front yard(riding a mower....but still im impressed),at night we snuggle up for about an hour of touch time to reset the shitty day i have and as i lay tucked into his arm i regulate my breathing and we breathe in unison and i will usually cry for just a moment and think why didnt richard love me enough to stay ,why didnt we do this together.when i close my eyes while mastubating occasionally i will see his face,and it takes me to tears every time

not in a million years will i EVER want to trade the man i have now and if richard showed up at my door id slam the door in his face .......and be happy i got to see his face one more time because i still love him with every breath i take

silvia it wont go away,and you will learn to live with it....the greatest loves of our life can also be the greatest heartache of our life i suspect you may be having to deal with that for a long time......learn to hold that love in a place you can always cherish and move on with life