Ask Dan & Jennifer

I am sure D&J jas a video about it, I'll look for it. In the meantime:
Have you ever talked with him about this? Not that he won't get the message if you're hurt/upset, but have you talked to him? If you already did, then it may be time for you to rethink about the relationship. I mean, porn is good, but I would prefer to be with the one I love the most than to be staring at naked people in the computer's screen. I would even prefer to get to know my boyfriend's family than to be watching porn. And even if I don't, well, it is my partner's family, I should be nice with them!
I think that if you haven't talked to him at all, then do so. He will have to get the message, but if he refuses to even attemt to change, he may not be worth the time.

Good luck, hun. I hope everything turns out for good :)
-Jean

Wow... I feel the hurt radiating through your post!

I'm so sorry that you're feeling hurt.

Look at the post stuck at the top - this definitely fits into our definition of cheating!

But there seems to be much more going on in this relationship. From you post, this man seems very self centered and hurtful to you. Are you really happy with this man?

You might try telling him that these actions are hurting your feelings - Don't blame or attack (which we women can do so easily!). Tell him how you feel in terms of your feelings. When he does something that hurts your feelings, rather than attacking back, which is the natural response. Take a breath and look at him and say "Ouch. that really hurt my feelings". and don't say anything else.

He may not realize that he's hurting you feelings and may be repeating unconscious patterns that he learned from his parents or other childhood influences.

Now if he just doesn't seem to care and continues to hurt your feelings, it may be time to reconsider the relationship. You should not be in a relationship where you feel hurt and sad all the time. Our goal in this life is to experience joy and happiness.