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I recently have been involved in with a married woman over the past 3 months. She asked her husband to move out of her house about nine months ago because of several infidelity occasions and a lack of connection between the two of them. They dated six years prior to getting married and she has told me the reason she became married was because it just felt like the next step not because of a serious connection. We live in a somewhat small town where you know alot of the same people. Since throwing him out she has said that several people have confronted her about him cheating prior to their marrage as well. She is a very sweet woman and i feel that nine months ago she finnaly built up the courage to just do it.

As for my question. I really do not want to hurt this woman or make it anymore harder on her in life or if she were to get a divorce. Would our relationship hurt her in court if she were to get a divorce? She has put it off so far because of her family friends and religion. I know it has been hard on her already because her husband has recently found out and he and his friends have been hassling her about it. I know we have only been seeing each other for three months, but i really have strong feelings for her and would love to see this relationship progress. I also feel a very strong connection back from her and have no feeling that she still has any desire to go back to her husband. I have told her that she needs to make this decision on her own and for herself, not for her family, friends, church or myself. Do i need to back off alittle bit and let her make a decision or do i continue to see her? either way i will support her decision if she makes it because she feels its the one that will make her happy. Thanks for the help - kwally