Ask Dan & Jennifer

dude i say you stay at that house man if its in your name keep it if its in both of your names fight for it. im really sorry for you on the whole situation and how you maintained your cool and not gone out and done something dumb. hey your a grown ass man take some time to yourself think about what i said for keeping the house or follow your mom idea cause we all know mom's are always right. hope everything works out.

hey guy it true dont leave the house she was the bad one make her leave and keep the kids if she wants to lies and cheat make her pay to get out . If you think she still wants to be with you give it a chance if you really love her other wise toss her to the curb. What ever you do DONT leave the state with the kids even though you are the father she could charge you with kid napping if you dont get her permission to do so check with a attoreny first.:)

jj in OK

infidelity, if proven in the court system, can give you the upperhand on the aspects of divorce.
the children deserve both parents, regardless of infidelity.
unless she is a unfit parent, in which i would think you would have mentioned, don't take the children completely away from her.
i am sorry that your family has to deal with this kind of problem. it seems so many of our children have to be in torn families these days. we as adults should be better and more mature about our daily decision making.
your mother will always take your side, becuase she is your mother. of course she wants you to move home with the grand kids. she wants to protect you and her grandchildren, and she also wants to punish your wife for her behaviour by alienating her from her children. that's perfectly natural human nature.
however, you need to choose the best solution for your family. if moving would be your best choice for a 'new start' go with it. just remember that you have two wounderful innocent children that are affected by your actions.
if you could, you should tell your wife that her actions have indirectly hurt her children. she may have not even thought about them while she was being selfish. she may actually start to realize that she needs to get herself together, and get back to being a mother instead of having an alternate life.
good luck

I would leave her standing in the cold... It may seem harsh but if the cheating wasn't bad enough, with the fact that she lied to you on top of it which is the part that really hurts, but to make matters worse she tried to dig her way out of it with the he raped me line. (Which is a serious No No) And if you would have blown up and done something drastic your kids could have lost both parent or she may have ended up with your kids well you spent your life in prison! Which just doesn't sound like a positive step forward, for you or your kids! And I can honestly say that I've been put in the He raped me but he really didn't position on more than one occasion, and I wish I could say that I handled it half as well as you did but the first time I stepped into those shoes I was a mere 16 year old hothead raised and programmed for violence! And in the twisted wisdom of my youth I acted before asking him his half and almost wasted two lives with my actions, all for someone that wasn't worth wasting my breath let alone my life on! So on that cool-headed decision I congratulate you on being a bigger, smarter man than most of us! As for her true all kids should have both their parents but if it was me I'm not sure I'd want my children around someone who lies about something as serious as being raped! And it sounds like she needs to work on herself before I'd want her around those kids again if it was me! Just my two cents! Hope it helps some!