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I think she has made it quite clear how she feels about this fantasy. I think if you push the issue, there is a strong likelihood she will "run for the hills."

What is a "normal" fantasy? Normal is ultimately in the eye of the beholder. I don't think there's anything wrong with your fantasy. As far as putting it into practice, however, she has made it clear she's not interested. I think your best bet is to respect her feelings. Some fantasies are best left as just that, fantasies.

One of the most common themes that I've noticed on the forums is "How to I get him/her to...." Interestingly, there are as many of those by women as by men. The reality is that not all forms of sexual expression are for everyone. There's nothing wrong with making suggestions to your partner. However, you ultimately have to respect their feelings and boundaries. It's wrong to try to pressure or manipulate someone into a behavior they don't feel comfortable with. I think your best bet is to drop it.

Have you thought about cleaning up your own "cream pies?"
This doesn't involve other people and may be a happy middle ground.

my boyfriend wanted to do this with me i guess im not as experimental as most and did not like the idea of being with anyone else under the circumstances. He pushed on with it until one day i finally said to hell with it and tried it turns out he didnt love it, got jealous and now im happy i never have to again. Its either shes too shy to admit she wants to or she doesnt like the idea and never will theres alot of porn for this though.

To each his own.

My take...I don't even want more than one man in my porn and especially in the bedroom with my woman. Actually, it would be better if there were no men in my porn. The last thing I want to be is the pathetic bystander, watching while someone else is getting the girl.
The thought of licking a pussy gets me hard instantly. Actually, when I'm doing it, i'm in a blissful, erotic state.
As far as licking another guy's cum...ew. I don't want anything from another guy but that's just me. Especially one that is trying to have sex with the woman i'm supposed to be having sex with.
Sorry but that's Gay.
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
I just think that any woman who is in a relationship with a guy who wants to do this should re-think their relationship.
He is disoriented.

first off let me say this is a somewhat common fetish but as for normal we crate our own normal in life tabbo yes it is but whatever flots your boat.
as for the other men it would make me uncoumfterbule but i would be willing to try it. if my partner wanted me to. licking her mess i have a smimlar fetish so i woulndnt mind that but to each his own.

the worst she can do is head for the hills and if she dose then thats alright you can always find some sort of compramise. if theres one thing ive learnd about fetishes and coming out to your partner its that its not a good idea to keep a fetish a secrite
relationships are based on trust and keeping secreats no matter what there about brakes that trust and the longer you keep it bottled up the more it tears you up inside.
as i said i have a simmlar fetish and had the same problume true i told my girlfreind and she imidiatly walked out on me but i would have felt much worse had i not told her good luck
blessed be
Hatez

I think Nighthawk had the best idea. It's the safest on many counts.

The potential for transmission of STDs to your partner or to yourself is just too great. It's not a safe situation to begin with and "cleaning up" just compounds what could be a serious situation, already.

Originally posted by: guzzler
hi!!!! ive always had a open mind and just recently have come up with a new fantisy...thats been playing over and over again in my mind and i need some advice! ive seen some videos on this and i am extreamly turned on by the thought of this but i dont know how to tell the ol lady my feelings, we've been together for 4 yrs now and she cant come to grips with my fantisy of me watching her with another man or men for that matter..although I suspect it turns her on hardcore..she remains "too prissy"to get down...I think this new vibe is a add-on to my existing fantisy...i would love:p to lick up her lover/s 'mess' and im to shy to tell her but its eating me up in side be cause its the only secerert im keeping from her...but wow what a sexy thought...should i keep this one to myself???and if not how could i tell her without her running for the hills:cool:by the way ...is this a normal fantisy

The best advice i can give you is to make your own mess and then lick it up .......it worked for me