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I was watching The Morning show with Mike and Juliette from yesterday and saw some good advice. I accidentally deleted it from my DVR after I watched it:rolleyes: so I apologize for not having the names of the Psychologist and the Author that were guests. But I did jot down some notes of some of the things they discussed.
The topic was what happens when one partner has a much higher sex drive than the other? We usually think of this as he wants it, she doesn't. However, this is beginning to shift. Women are more empowered sexually (the "Sex in the City age" so to speak) and are also becoming more aware of their sexuality as time marches on.
This can be a very difficult issue for any relationship, so here's some of the tips they discussed to help.
Work on intimacy in and out of the bedroom. Sometimes the problems in the bedroom start out of it. Sometimes just simple communication may be not only very difficult and uncomfortable, but also embarrasing to talk about some subjects for some people. But if you plant the seeds now, it might take awhile, and your mate may not seem receptive, but somewhere deep inside their minds it's being mulled over and worked through. Eventually that discussion may totally make sense to your partner, even a year or more down the road.
They also discussed other intimacy building things that are great. One thing has been discussed here already (and can go for guys or girls). You can have a lot of sex with clothes on... meaning get your mojo working during the day before you even see each other. This is also a good place to mention that just that look.. you know what look I'm talking about... when you're out to dinner or at a park or whatever. That sexy, "I want you!" look can get your partner's libido rising, even if they've been lacking for much sex drive lately.
I also liked this analogy. Having a low sex drive is sort of like working out. You don't really want to do it and you fight with yourself getting to the gym, but when you're actually there it feels good, you're enjoying it, and when it's all over you're happier and healthier for the experience.
Finally, one more thing I gleened from this show was "Sex isn't just an act. It's a way of living." Sit there and chew on that one for a minute.
I think we need to see what you all think about sex as a way of living. :D
The topic was what happens when one partner has a much higher sex drive than the other? We usually think of this as he wants it, she doesn't. However, this is beginning to shift. Women are more empowered sexually (the "Sex in the City age" so to speak) and are also becoming more aware of their sexuality as time marches on.
This can be a very difficult issue for any relationship, so here's some of the tips they discussed to help.
Work on intimacy in and out of the bedroom. Sometimes the problems in the bedroom start out of it. Sometimes just simple communication may be not only very difficult and uncomfortable, but also embarrasing to talk about some subjects for some people. But if you plant the seeds now, it might take awhile, and your mate may not seem receptive, but somewhere deep inside their minds it's being mulled over and worked through. Eventually that discussion may totally make sense to your partner, even a year or more down the road.
They also discussed other intimacy building things that are great. One thing has been discussed here already (and can go for guys or girls). You can have a lot of sex with clothes on... meaning get your mojo working during the day before you even see each other. This is also a good place to mention that just that look.. you know what look I'm talking about... when you're out to dinner or at a park or whatever. That sexy, "I want you!" look can get your partner's libido rising, even if they've been lacking for much sex drive lately.
I also liked this analogy. Having a low sex drive is sort of like working out. You don't really want to do it and you fight with yourself getting to the gym, but when you're actually there it feels good, you're enjoying it, and when it's all over you're happier and healthier for the experience.
Finally, one more thing I gleened from this show was "Sex isn't just an act. It's a way of living." Sit there and chew on that one for a minute.
I think we need to see what you all think about sex as a way of living. :D
