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I am in a very difficult situation, so any advise would be much appreciated.
I am currently in a college co-op program where I work for 4 months, then I do 4 months of school, then 4 work, and so on. At my current job, which I am at for 2 more weeks, there is this one girl who I really like. The first day we met, we hit it off and I could tell there was something big between us. We continued to shares interests, stories, etc, and we are so alike its not funny. Furthermore, we are both in the same college program, same age, and same exact job. We even go down to eat lunch together sometimes. The problem is however, that during the workday we are on opposite ends on the office in which I work, and furthermore, her desk is surrounded by several others - so anytime I come over to chat, she becomes shy and gives a one word answer, which is quite different than when we are alone and talk. The two of us are generally shy (but she is more so than myself), so neither of us has really made a move outside just sharing conversation (sometimes even deep conversation) and I would really like to progress into any form or a relationship with this girl. We have 2 weeks left at this job, then 4 months back at college, and as it turns out we are both staying in the same housing complex for those 4 months, but that is irrelevant. After the 4 months of school we have already both been rehired to work at the same job which we are currently working at, for another 4 months. Now here is the actual dilemma I am facing:
If I try and progress with her in the 2 weeks we have left at work, and she says no, then we have 4 months at school of no talking, and THEN 4 months of awkwardness at work afterwords, and no lunches together.
If I wait 2 weeks, then ask her out while we are at school, and she says no, then its 4 months of awkwardness in housing, then 4 months of awkwardness at work after.
But if I decide not to ask until the next term of work, 4 months is a long time away, and I am certain our conversation will not be as strong since we are both in very hard programs which require long nights of studying and work, and then returning to work we will be more distant than before :(
So I can either try now or in the next school term, and there is a good chance she will say no (since she is a VERY shy girl), or I can wait, and hope everything works out, which doesn't sound like a good idea either!
I am currently in a college co-op program where I work for 4 months, then I do 4 months of school, then 4 work, and so on. At my current job, which I am at for 2 more weeks, there is this one girl who I really like. The first day we met, we hit it off and I could tell there was something big between us. We continued to shares interests, stories, etc, and we are so alike its not funny. Furthermore, we are both in the same college program, same age, and same exact job. We even go down to eat lunch together sometimes. The problem is however, that during the workday we are on opposite ends on the office in which I work, and furthermore, her desk is surrounded by several others - so anytime I come over to chat, she becomes shy and gives a one word answer, which is quite different than when we are alone and talk. The two of us are generally shy (but she is more so than myself), so neither of us has really made a move outside just sharing conversation (sometimes even deep conversation) and I would really like to progress into any form or a relationship with this girl. We have 2 weeks left at this job, then 4 months back at college, and as it turns out we are both staying in the same housing complex for those 4 months, but that is irrelevant. After the 4 months of school we have already both been rehired to work at the same job which we are currently working at, for another 4 months. Now here is the actual dilemma I am facing:
If I try and progress with her in the 2 weeks we have left at work, and she says no, then we have 4 months at school of no talking, and THEN 4 months of awkwardness at work afterwords, and no lunches together.
If I wait 2 weeks, then ask her out while we are at school, and she says no, then its 4 months of awkwardness in housing, then 4 months of awkwardness at work after.
But if I decide not to ask until the next term of work, 4 months is a long time away, and I am certain our conversation will not be as strong since we are both in very hard programs which require long nights of studying and work, and then returning to work we will be more distant than before :(
So I can either try now or in the next school term, and there is a good chance she will say no (since she is a VERY shy girl), or I can wait, and hope everything works out, which doesn't sound like a good idea either!
