Ask Dan & Jennifer

well the obvious question is why are you two still married? No mention of kids or any other attachment to him. I think a divorce could solve all of your problems. Let's say for some reason that is not possible, then yes you should be honest with your casual partners about your marital status. If they don't mind then you are being honest with everybody involved and well not a conventional relationship, if it works for all of you, GREAT!

Girl, you are the perfect candidate for a swinger party or club. You are what folks in the swinger community call a 'unicorn'. That rare mythical creature that few have seen... LOL

Seriously, I think that the swinger community would be a great group for you because you love sex and casual relationships.

That community is however very afraid of drama, so make sure that it's really what you want and that your legal husband is not going to cause trouble.

I'm a very strong proponent of honesty, but in this case, especially if it's just a one night thing, I see no reason to say anything. However, if someone asks, you should be honest.

I also agree with Rich in Love. Why are you still married? You just seem to be in this complicated limbo state... If it's just that no one has gotten around to the divorce, then just do it and get it done. If you still love each other, then take steps to work out your differences and get back together. If there are other issues, then I'll leave you to worry about those...

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"Seriously, I think that the swinger community would be a great group for you because you love sex and casual relationships".
Back in the 80’s the wife and I were into swinging, swapping and M F M threesomes and I was also attached to a small group of guys that were available for women (and couples) who wonted a small group of guys for gangbangs.
A woman replied to our add in a local sex magazine and came along to a session with us, she returned a few times after the first session, and then stopped coming “and one of the guys went missing from our group and was seeing the woman”?
Around a year later some of the guys from the group were invited to their wedding. After a honeymoon period the newlywed couple were into swinging and the husband was back in our men’s group.
As it turned out the woman knew what she wonted and went out to get it, she had tried a vanilla marriage before and that did not work out as she liked variety in her sex life and went out and got it.
They were happily married for 15 years until he died of cancer.