Do I worry about it?

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 3 years ago

I am a ninteen year old girl, whom just entered a very committed relationship. we had known each other for years, and I considered him my best friend for the longest time. Finally, after a year and a half, he asks me out. i was extatic. we are moving in together in nine months, and I couldn't be happier.

Only, I am worried. I have had sexual experiences before. Bondage, threesomes, foursomes, toys, the whole nine yards. He has told me repeatedly that i am his first girlfriend, and I will be his first lover. I am so scared that I will botch this first time for him. Should I be so nervous about this? do men take their first times as seriously as we girls do? Should i just go with the flow?

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freezefla..

Well I Can't Really Speak For Him, But...

3 years ago

First of all, I think you'll do fine. Guys don't exactly need a fantastic lover in order to have fun, ESPECIALLY when they don't have any expectations yet.

If you're worried about it more because you want to incorporate the bondage or whatnot and you're afraid he'll be scared off... just ask him beforehand. Ask him "What are some of your kinks?" or similar questions to see if he'd be interested.

If he's not sure, then I don't suggest trying to get him to give it a chance on his first time with you. Of course, if he's into that sort of thing keep some of the paraphernalia
nearby while you're "getting it started" with him in case he feels like doing something kinky, and sees an item. That way he can suggest it if he wants.

But yeah, I wouldn't worry too much.
If you're worried... chances are you won't perform as well as you could normally, too.

Have fun, and good luck!

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