Ask Dan & Jennifer

It's really not anyone's business to tell you what you should consider right or wrong. unless you ask. But really, only you know when you're ready.

Personally, personally, I'm fifteen and my boyfriend have been going out for nearly three years. We love each other, but we're waiting until marriage to have sex. I think it's wrong to give up your virginity so soon in your life. So does he. So we're waiting.

Generally, people think sex at 13 is wrong.

But don't let that get you down. It's in the past and there's nothing you can do about it. And you can still remain abstinent if you want. Just because you're not a virgin any more doesn't mean you have to feel guilty forever about it.

Hi there.

I don't think it's "wrong" to have sex at a young age. My big concern is the emotional side of sex that many young people do not consider.

I would ask these questions before having sex for the first time, or if you already have, ask them before having sex again....

• Am I really ready to have a sexual relationship with another person - emotionally? It's a very big step and can have many unintended consequences...
  
• Can I satisfy my curiosity through masturbation? (this will allow you time to mature as a person and help you find out what you like before you add in another person)
  
• Does having sex contradict my belief or my parents beliefs?
  
• Are those beliefs important to me?
  
• Why do I want to have sex with this person?
  
• Does this person treat me with respect?
  
• Do I trust this person? Are they honest about their feeling toward me?
  
• How will I feel if I never have sex with this person again?
  
• Which method of birth control should I use?
  
• What if I get pregnant? Get her Pregnant? How will I handle that situation?
  
• What if I get an STD? How will I handle that situation?
  

I'm not trying to scare anyone away from having sex, but addressing the tough questions up front can give you piece of mind if something weird does happen.

And last but not least... You should never, ever, let another person pressure you into having sex. Only do it when, where, and how you are ready to do it.