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Originally posted by: jojo
Ok so me and this girl talked the last day of school last year and we talked about where we were from and some personal questions. After summer and we started our next school year we saw each other a lot while walking to our classes but we never said anything to each other. I did see her look at me once and we did make eye contact but she quickly looked away. but last week she came up to me and just started talking to me. For some reason she kept giving me high fives and well she was very nice to me. I like her does she like me.

Yes!! She already made the first move! You're a lucky guy.

The only way to know for sure is to approach her, even casually. If she doesn't like you, she'll push you away and encourage you to leave her alone... but she approached YOU and even initiated casual physical contact (whether that means a light fleeting touch, a light brush up, giving you five, etc.).

So now, get to know her better. Talk to her. Talk about something, anything, classes, whatever. It's not what you say, it's how you say it, the proximity, the fact that you're talking for no other reason than you're interested in being around each other.

Don't necessarily "ask her out on a date" per-se, just get to know her, go grab a cup of coffee or whatever together, something non-threatening so she can get to know you better in a public place.

Opportunity has a funny way of showing up and suddenly disappearing - don't over-analyze this, rather go for it and see what happens.

Let us know how it goes.

Well D&J pretty much said all what there is left to say.

Yes, she likes you. Or at least she finds you interesting. Which is a good thing. Try not to go too fast, that would be my only advice. Keep talking and getting to know her. Show her you're interested without overwhelming her. Just be cool, yourself and be sincere. Don't lie! :p

I don't know anything else to add, other than Good luck!

-Jean
Who is still trying to find someone for me.

jennifer here...

I agree - she's made the first move. She wouldn't have talked to you if she doesn't at least want to get to know you better. So yes, she likes you in some way or other...

Now it's up to you to make sure that you're sending the right signals, so that you don't end up in the 'friend zone'. Don't be overly aggressive, but don't be her best girlfriend either. know what I mean?

Above all. Be yourself. If she doesn't like the real you then she's not worth the effort!

:-)

Sounds like she does like you. If you are one of the more nerdy or geeky types that are usually pretty shy around girls and don't really seem to notice when girls are hitting on you, then you may just want to open your eyes a little more so yo won't miss the opportunity for a possibly great girl.

Listen to the other posters as well. don't rush it for sure. Keep pace but slow it down a little if you start to feel a bit rushed. I would just say, enjoy the company :) and get to know her.

She apparently does like you.

But it is up to YOU to take it to the next level.

She isn't going to escalate unless you make the first move. You, as the man, are expected to take the lead, which also means taking the risk that she doesn't like you as much as it might appear.

This ties in, to a large extent, to what Jenn said about sending the right signals/staying out of the 'friend zone'.

If she wants you to continue to escalate, it will be obvious. She'll get giggly, touchy, and when the moment arrives, there won't be any question in your mind that she wants you to kiss her. If it does not get to the point where it's obvious, it is too soon.

But, you're beyond the first and biggest risk, and something that lots of guys, even the most confident & smooth pick up artists, struggle with. Which is breaking the ice. You've already accomplished that. It's time to step up. If you crash and burn, you'll have nothing more nor less than what you have now, except experience to learn from. Which we'll help you analyze, of course.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Yes!!! I most definetly have to say that i think she does like you otherwise if she didnt then, she wouldnt be looking @ you @ all & probably she could be shy @ this point too so I suggest you should just go up and talk to her and ask her anything you want like maybe ask her what interests she has and that sorta thing & see what her reaction is & how things go!!! Thats my advice if you can take that!

I have another question. Well the girl I was telling you about before, we always talk now befoe I go to class. her friends who she car pools with has a class is right next to mine so we usually talk then. We were talking we were both laughing and all and then she got a text. It was her friend and it said that she didnt need a ride home. So right after she got it we talked for a minute and then she just said see u next time and left. But she was still really really nice and still kept on high fiving me. I noticed a guy on her cell phone wallpaper to. does this sound bad.

Great, you're making progress! Nothing's changed, stay the course!

Unless you meet a boyfriend or she says - hey, i have a boyfriend - you're in the clear.

Keep up updated!
Dan

Ok So what are some other signs that will tell me if she likes me or not.

Thanks a lot guys. All this advice really helps.

Check out 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/i-really-like-this-girl-but-dont-know-if-she-likes-me-or-how-to-ask-her-out-or-anything-please-help' for a different perspective on whether she likes you, how you can tell, etc.

At the end of the day you're going to have to trust your gut on this though, or rather quit questioning if she likes you or not. The signs seem pretty clear. :)

This is getting rediculous. OK so what should I do. What should I say. Im not sure if she has a bf. Should I just keep talking to her or should I step it up and try to get a # or go out. I dont know what to do.:confused:

Originally posted by: jojo
Ok so me and this girl talked the last day of school last year and we talked about where we were from and some personal questions. After summer and we started our next school year we saw each other a lot while walking to our classes but we never said anything to each other. I did see her look at me once and we did make eye contact but she quickly looked away. but last week she came up to me and just started talking to me. For some reason she kept giving me high fives and well she was very nice to me. I like her does she like me.

ya she does like you maybe as a friend or even more what i would do is start hanging out with her at lunch and other free time and get to know her more, just make sure that you dont wait to long cause if you hang out with her for to long(ex: 2 months) than she will categorize you as her friend and she wont like you anymore.
just hang out with her for about a week get to know her and then at the beginning of the next week ask her out and see what she says.
if your afraid of being rejected dont worry about it cause nothing will change between you two as friends(at least to my knowledge cause im still friends with a lot of the girls i hang out with so its not a guarantee that she will still be your friend but most likely she will).
hope this helps

Jojo,

Luigi is right on - and that's what I keep saying as well - it's time to move on this. Keep slowly raising the stakes and showing your interest - before you lose her.

Just remember there's no "right" and "wrong" approach or things to say, etc. So I can't tell you the exact things to say to her or the exact things to wait for her to say - it just doesn't work like that.

Just understand that if she doesn't bite (which would be very surprising frankly) then it's ok, you will have learned from this experience and become stronger and better for it.

Read 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/how-do-i-tell-if-she-likes-me-plz-help', it should help.

You should also definitely read 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/girls-how-do-i-get-confidence', that is crucial to being attractive to women. Absolutely crucial. Read it today.

And to help you make decisions easier... check out this 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/confidence-and-fear-having-difficulty-making-decisions'.

Good luck - now it's time for action. Go forth and do great things. And remember that however it works out, you'll be fine!

Respond here if you have any more questions on this (no more private messages please - we only discuss these questions in the forum threads) - but it's time to act now.

Dan

shes waiting!!!! lol just remember shes human to and scared out of her wits as much as you!:D

Originally posted by: jojo
This is getting rediculous. OK so what should I do. What should I say. Im not sure if she has a bf. Should I just keep talking to her or should I step it up and try to get a # or go out. I dont know what to do.:confused:

hey if you want to find out if she has a bf or not just ask her when ever you talk to her next" O so what are you and your bf doing this weekend" or "hey how are you and your bf" and if she tells you what she is doing on the weekend than assume she has a bf if she doesnt tell you her plans and she denies that she has a bf than you know that she is single and free for a date.
thats what i do and it works all the time trust me i know im not older than you but from my experience it works and it doesnt offend the girl you like unlike
"hey do you have a bf".
oh and if she questions where you herd that she had a bf just say that you herd it from someone in a class that you are taking just dont mention any names.

You seem to be doing well so far, and the longer this flirting goes on, the less we on this forum can help. I what I would suggest now it to try kissing her on the cheek.

Also, I think it might be time to ask her for a date.

Good luck

Yes She sure does!
I did the exact same thing to the guy I liked a while back.
Congrats, (:

Okay so If I were you I would keep talking to her and gradually find out what you want to know, like ask "Who is your love intrest now a days". But don't say it too seriously because it might be too far too soon.
So then. Ya ask for her number but not like your hitting on her, and you should be able to tell what your next moves are by how she reacts.

Like I said, it sounds like to me that she likes you, but you might just want to see who's the picture of on her phone. If it's just a person from a band, or something like that, you've got nothing to worry about, but if it isn't, you might want to try to find out who it is. Maybe ask some of her friends.

Originally posted by: BrassPlayer4Life
If it's just a person from a band, or something like that, you've got nothing to worry about, but if it isn't, you might want to try to find out who it is. Maybe ask some of her friends.

Be careful talking to a girls's friends about liking her... watch this video first.

Help! I'm In Love With My Best Friend...

Sorry to say but she is taken. I found out by googling her name. She has a facebook and I saw more pics. well I quit. thanks anyway.