Ask Dan & Jennifer

I don't want to call you bi. But you may be, because of having sex with three men.

That's really your choice in the end, no one can really define you but yourself.

Having anal stimulation is nothing having to do with you being gay. The anus is just a very sensitive area that can be stimulated for great pleasure on males. So if your conferable with it go and enjoy your self.

You probably are, but just be faithful toy our partner/spouse, and have fun with life.:D

your question seems to be are you gay or not well it sounds to me like we must look at the defonishion of gay or homosexual, you said you did enjoy anal stimulation and crossdressing but when you did it with men you didnt like it. i belive that the correct definishion of homosexual is someone who enjoys sex with someone of the same gender.
you enjoyed it up until you did it with men now if you didnt enjoy it then i dont see how thats gay it sounds to me like your into feminization or sissyfication and strapon training which i belive is part of the bdsm fetish.
so i wouldnt worry about it

well...sometimes i feel like getting anal-fucked bby some muscular guy...thats why i am bottom for a few hot hunks....but mostly i enjoy sex wid girls...so i dun call myself gay....and i dun think wid just one experience u can be gay...its just a taste of life.

If you have to ask others, then that's a strong possibility.
If you like anal stimulation, why do you have a man perform it if you are not gay?
Straight men do not want a man to touch them sexually.
Why not use toys or have a woman do it for you?
Bi is a gay who hasn't admitted it yet.
I hope you used condoms so your wife doesn't get HIV.

Interesting comments.

There's nothing about a woman's anus that would give her greater pleasure being stimulated there than a man. So if there are women who like it then there are men who enjoy it. It has nothing to do with preferring men or women.

As Xero said, there are a lot of nerve ending there. You can enjoy this with a woman (see postings on "pegging").

Also, the idea that "a bi is someone who hasn't admitted being gay" is simply silly. There are straights and there are gays and everything in between. Why can't a person enjoy both sexes? That's bi - that's not gay.

But you don't seem to want to be with men. And there are plenty of straight men who want to enjoy the occasional homosexual encounter. Those guys in the adult video store, at highway reststops, public toilets, etc. They aren't gay - many are married and even happily so. They just want a different experience.

Hatez has the correct definition.

Sorry...we are all entitled to our opinions.
I am very familiar with the Kinsey's Heterosexual-Homosexual Rating Scale.
The reality is, it is a married man engaging in "homosexual acts."
It's one thing to have a thought...it's another to feel so compelled to act on it.
Thoughts come into our heads that would not be appropriate to act on. We can't control what thoughts come into our head...we can control what we do with them. For example: you see a really sexy underage female...acceptable behavior...turn your head and get rid of the thought ASAP.
I personally cringe when I see video of a woman blowing 2 guys at once and their dicks touch.

There's nothing about a woman's anus that would give her greater pleasure being stimulated there than a man. So if there are women who like it then there are men who enjoy it. It has nothing to do with preferring men or women.
As Xero said, there are a lot of nerve ending there. You can enjoy this with a woman (see postings on "pegging").

Actually, it might be more pleasure for the man because of the location of the prostate. I have no problem with deriving pleasure from anal stimulation. I love it when a woman is open-minded enough to engage in anal play. I was referring to the gender of the partner who is doing the inserting or stimulating.

Also, the idea that "a bi is someone who hasn't admitted being gay" is simply silly. There are straights and there are gays and everything in between. Why can't a person enjoy both sexes? That's bi - that's not gay.

I don't know if I believe or agree with that, but that's my right as well as it is yours. Are they with a woman because of society's standards, but at the same time, they are so compelled to have a homosexual experience, that they must act on it. Would they tell there wife that they are doing it? Why do they have to sneak around and do it?

Those guys in the adult video store, at highway reststops, public toilets, etc.

These are closet gays. That's just creepy...sorry. I think the word is "cruisin"
If it's so normal and acceptable, why don't they tell their wife?

But you don't seem to want to be with men. And there are plenty of straight men who want to enjoy the occasional homosexual encounter.

I don't know what happened to them as a child, but we all have our experiences that make us what we are today. I. personally had an experience when I was 10 yrs old. It's considered to be normal for adolescents to experiment. Well, a group of guys were jerking off and daring each other to put their mouth on each other's dicks. I was in a state of horror and had no desire to do any of it. I did feel the peer pressure but I was horrified by the whole thing. Today, i am very open-minded and probably hyper-sexual but I have never had a homosexual experience and I am now 51 yrs old. Women feel right and the thought of a man is a total turn-off. But that's just me.
I don't know what you mean by "plenty of STRAIGHT men." Maybe those are just the ones you're focusing on to justify your behavior.
There are "plenty" of people who do a lot of things...I just don't do them.

:rolleyes: frankly anyone who thinks a bisexual is a gay who hasn't admitted it yet is a bit of a retard and prejudiced. bisexuality is a valid sexuality with many people staying bi their whole lives and having genuine sexual attraction to both genders.

Its makes logical sense for their to be bisexuals as it seems there is always someone attracted to something if it exists men and women exist and gay and straight exist bi is no more unusual and why is it a hurdle to except that more so that homosexuality.

statistically there are more bisexuals of both genders than lesbians and nearly as many as gay men. there is much evidence to show sexuality is caused by prenatal hormone with evidence to show how homosexuality and bisexuality could occurr. evolutionary wise bisexuality makes sense within the human psyche its efficient.
finally there are bis who stay that way their whole life but would rather be gay or straight. they aren;t scared of being gay the just like the opposite sex too.
it seems to me its a very unhappy self concious person who can't except and criticises the validity of others sexuality.

frankly anyone who thinks a bisexual is a gay who hasn't admitted it yet is a bit of a retard and prejudiced. bisexuality is a valid sexuality with many people staying bi their whole lives and having genuine sexual attraction to both genders.

Like I said...we are all entitled to our opinions. That doesn't make me a retard. In fact I graduated college as a member of the national honor society, so I'm not a retard.
It's just the way I view the subject. I don't believe that a man calls himself Bi and who acts on homosexual urges is always truly heterosexual, even if he does have sex with women. Who knows what he must fantasize about to be able to perform with women. It just seems unlikely to me that a man who love women sexually could be open to having homosexual sex. I am not judging or criticizing. I don't hate them or disrespect them. I accept them for who they are.

Its makes logical sense for their to be bisexuals as it seems there is always someone attracted to something if it exists men and women exist and gay and straight exist bi is no more unusual and why is it a hurdle to except that more so that homosexuality.

Because I feel that, for a man to be open to having sex with a man, the urge and the importance must be so overwhelming, that they must act on it, regardless of the consequences. Men who are truly turned on by women would have no need to act out in that way.

statistically there are more bisexuals of both genders than lesbians and nearly as many as gay men. there is much evidence to show sexuality is caused by prenatal hormone with evidence to show how homosexuality and bisexuality could occurr. evolutionary wise bisexuality makes sense within the human psyche its efficient.
finally there are bis who stay that way their whole life but would rather be gay or straight. they aren;t scared of being gay the just like the opposite sex too.

We don't really know...we can only speculate. In an age where there are Evangelist Preachers who secretly have sex with a male prostitute, while posing as a married, Holy, Role-Model for religious fanatics, it's difficult to know or prove what's really going on.

it seems to me its a very unhappy self concious person who can't except and criticises the validity of others sexuality.

I'm sorry if you think i was criticizing. I was just stating my feelings and thoughts on this subject. I don't have anything against anyone who knows they are gay or anyone who struggles with their sexuality. I just find it hard to believe that a man who has homosexual sex with 3 different men is, straight. Only the individual knows the truth. It's up to each individual to be true to themselves so they can live and be free.

Well an opinion is only valid if it is logically justifiable. If its just made up then its not really respectable. No I'm not saying men who have sex with men can be heterosexual. I think if one has sex with men and is male and enjoys it is highly probable they are bi or gay I would too as you be highly sceptical that they could truly be heterosexual.

But many people enjoy sex with either gender and are able to have romantic relationships with either. However I think what you are saying is that if they are in a relationship with one gender say e.g. they are married and they have an overwhelming urge to be with the same gender again they can't be truly enjoying their opposite sex partner.

I see what you mean by this and it does suggest a homosexual possibility but it also can suggest bisexual but not a very strong loyalty to their partner. Some people find monogamy impossible regardless of their sexuality.
Yet there are many bisexuals who genuinly like both genders sexually can have romantic relationships with either but are fullfilled when they are with one person. This coming from the mouth of a female monogamous bisexual who has been this way many years and is defintely not gay or straight. tried to convince myself i was gay and straight and different times but it just became aparant i like both bodies and therefore just find a human i am attracted to and love. I also know many bisexual monogamous males. so yeah we do exist. sexuality is most likely from birth as why would one choose anything as distressing and looked down upon as bisexuality by choice. In the past I'd of given my arm to be hetero. I think its possible our thread starter is most likely bi but I don't think that gives license to cheat on his lover.

This gets very tricky.
I believe that it is different for females.

It is socially acceptable for females to openly kiss one another.
Society supports and condones female to female contact...even for "straight" females. .
Men love to watch 2 females have sex.
Most men would be grossed out by the thought of kissing a man.
Men pay for sex...women sell it.
Women are the producers of both genders. They are the mothers of all people. We all come out of a woman. Women have been inside of a woman...men have not been inside of a man(unless they have gay sex).
Men have to achieve an erection to perform...women don't.

I could go on...there are so many factors.
This is just one of those things that can't be proven yet.
There are so many variables as to why this behavior takes place.

BTW...an opinion is just that...an opinion. It is valid to the one with the opinion. It might be valid to others and it might not. It doesn't matter if anyone else validates it. It's an opinion. Others are entitled to disagree.

Just like a hypotheses...until they are validated by clinical trials.
This would be difficult to validate.
I believe there was a study done where they attached sensors to the penises of homophobic men, then showed them naked pics of women, as well as straight porn and gay porn. The homophobic men got an erection with the gay porn but not with the straight porn.

I do not see why it should be different for females. sexuality happens in all humans as is caused by hormones for ALL this is actually proven that hormones in the womb cause gender therefore it is highly possible it causes sexuality to as sex hormone is released into the brain prebirth.
But regardless if cause there is no reason why it should be different for different genders in cause.
It some places it may be more socially acceptable for same sex contact among females. but social approval cannot cause sexuality. lesbianism and gayness happens even in countries where it is punishable by death therefore it happens regardless of social approval.

um many women get turned on by two men together. some prejudiced men are against lesbians. many women are disgusted by same sex female contact. having same sex contact doesn't make women a lesbian so why would it make men necessarily gay?
like i said I am bi but its not different for me as a woman. I was horribly bullied for my sexuality and hated it for many years it is the same for men yet there are many men who stay bi for years and stay loyal to their lovers.

yes an opinion is an opinion but what makes it right? if we just allowed any opinion to influence government chaos ensues as it has done in the past. logic and reason mean better decisions and it is the same with opinions. I can say there are magical unicorns but it does not make it true.
you suggest everything is subjective but even still there is matter of fact. You make have an opinion and it be totally wrong and its far more likely to be wrong if your evidence and justification is poor.
you may have an opinion but that doesn't make you correct it would very well mean you are ignorant such as the illogic of racism. opinion does not make itsekf correct simply by you believing it.

oh also some women pay for sex,
many women are grossed out by the thought of kissing a woman
many women are turned on by two men kissing
women can have sex without arousal but then again wet makes it easier you can have sex with a man without an erection it just has to be anal rape
women produce both genders but they would get very far without male help and scientifically in the womb we all begin as female and after introduction of certain sex hormones male genitalia and traits appear.
a hypothesis can be shown to be unlikely in the face of another more coherent hypothesis science isn't just opinion its investigation and logic not random guessing based on ones own prejudiced feelings.

Originally posted by: slittylicker
It is socially acceptable for females to openly kiss one another.
Society supports and condones female to female contact...even for "straight" females. .
Men love to watch 2 females have sex.
Most men would be grossed out by the thought of kissing a man.
Men pay for sex...women sell it.
Women are the producers of both genders. They are the mothers of all people. We all come out of a woman. Women have been inside of a woman...men have not been inside of a man(unless they have gay sex).
Men have to achieve an erection to perform...women don't.

You, being 51, either are the oldest man in the dorm or live in a shell on the computer. Take a poll of middle to upper aged persons and see if they think it is acceptable for a girl to kiss another girl. Yes, younger generations may say it is OK, but as a society...a sexually expressed encounter is homosexual or bisexual.

You had mentioned earlier that watching two guys go at a girl is OK, but if their dicks touch it grosses you out? And now you say that if two men kiss it grosses you out. My question is: in the pron you subscribe to, how big ar the girls where the men do not touch?

Women are not the producers of both genders. Alone they can produce nothing. In fact, the man has more say than the woman, as the man produces the Y chromosome to produce a male and the X chromosome to produce a female. The woman is just a carrier after that. Can a woman get pregnant without a man? NO, the sperm is needed.

Finally, women cannot perform if they are not aroused without some sort of lubricant (take precum for example), just the same as a man cannot perform if htey are not aroused without some sort of drug.

Back to the topic, I'd go with bi.

Thank you a well reasoned and logical argument.

Does it matter if you're gay/have a fetish? I don't see why it matters what label you put on your behavior. What matters is that you enjoy exploring various aspect of your sexuality and hopefully you are being safe about it.

after having sex with three males, its positive you are gay, but no worries just get on with your normal life and don't get affected, if you still have intimacy with women, look for a partner so you can get out of that hole.

In my opinion, any labels you choose are a product of you and your decision alone. Do you want to be bi? You evidently like some men, but is that just a fetish? You decide. If you think it's something more, chances are you'll realize it is a few days later. If you think it's just a fetish, maybe you're heterosexual. You can choose your orientation-to a degree. You choose how you label yourself. You may have sexual desires, but these could be a pansexual reaction (essentially, respecting the beauty in a person regardless of gender).
Only you can answer the question 'am I gay?'

Food for thought:
Were the men feminine? If they were effeminate then maybe it was a heterosexual reaction.
Is your wife at all masculine? Maybe it's a homosexual reaction attracting you to her.
Were they all completely different? If so, I'd guess you're either bisexual or pansexual.

Women are not the producers of both genders. Alone they can produce nothing. In fact, the man has more say than the woman, as the man produces the Y chromosome to produce a male and the X chromosome to produce a female. The woman is just a carrier after that. Can a woman get pregnant without a man? NO, the sperm is needed.

Most of these arguments are biased.

BTW...we all came out of a woman. That's what i meant. We all slid between the lips of a pussy before we ever had sex. Yes, to make that possible, a man had to be with a woman...we were designed that way. That's why women are and men are made the way they are made; to make all of this possible.