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I found out last night that my ex of 3 years has been seeing (well not sure if i can class it as that) a girl for a month, we split 2 months ago.
She lives in AMERICA!!!!!!! WTF They have not met, YET!!!
She told me he told her he loves her (When i asked him he said she was thick, then later said he has feelings for her) she tells him also that she loves him!
This is what it says on his profile
Cant wait untill we finally meet Aimz.....thanks for making my life a little more special while you are in it. Loving you loads... XX
This is what her's says
Well my name is aimz and im a mother of 2 great girls and currently im inlove with a great man who lives in scotland!!!! love you babes!!
Im # 1 Bitch as im told and im inlove with the mover and thats all i can tell you . he loves me as much as i love him and only time tells where we will go with this. either way we got a strong friendship that'll go to the moon and back. and NOONE can destroy that!!!!
He has been telling her the same things he told me years ago when i met him on "Paltalk"
She was shouting etc that i need to get over it blah blah and i have not text him for 2 weeks so how can i be angry and upset, i told him last night that was because i was giving him time to think about everything was gvinn him a month.
He told her that he was not in love with me anymore so finsihed it (that was not the reason, the reason was becuase his work and the distance yet he is seeing her 300 miles away)
I went mad on the phone to him as when we finsihed it was to let him sort his life out.
he told me few weeks ago " I would be gutted and hurt if you went with anyone else", He told me he didnt want to be with anyone right now and if he was going to be it would be me, I recieved an email 22nd August saying he needs to sort himself out and he wants better for me, he doesnt want to hurt me and if there was anyone else he would tell me (well he hasnt i had to find out by chance)
He sent her 400 dollars (dont know why), He is flying her and him to New York first week of November (he is paying for it all)
Am i wrong to be upset, angry?
I dont know what to do i have called him about a million times i want answers, why.
here is the email i recieved i also have texts from him saying he wants to be with me but not just now as he needs to sort himself out. What i to do?
Hi (took my name out) -
Your letter arrived this morning and i have just finished reading through it, and that's good you feel a bit better
after writing everything down. Thought I'd send an email as a reply.
Firstly, the night of that call when we said about finishing, that was the result of a quite a few things that had been
building up over a while. Mostly to do with the distance, and my work getting worse with the extra weekends working
that meant even less time I would see you, and it just pushed everything over the edge, (that was the main thing that call
was about). I was feeling so damn frustrated and annoyed at it all, and seriously fed up. I didn't expect things to finish with
that phone call either, but after it was said something clicked in my head and I just knew it was the right thing to do, it
was something that needed to happen.
The following few days I went over everything a million times in my head, and even though I felt/feel like shit, I was still
certain it was the right thing for me - even though by this time you were saying otherwise and wanting to sort it, which
was in turn making me feel even worse for making the decision to stick by what had already been said.
This part you might not want to hear, but bullshitting you I'm not going to do. You know one of the positive things I felt
in the following days? It was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders with regards to the travelling, and my work.
I mind standing there with a rosta and all of a sudden realising I didnt have to try and sort out days off or look ahead
and worry about when I can or cant get up and dread having to tell you I couldn't make it, then in turn get pissed off
with myself once again about it all ect God that stuff really got me down. (To push that point even further again, this
weekend would have been out as well because I'm working today and tomorrow).
When you talk about me trying to get you out of my life, that isn't what I was trying to do. When you phoned me
going nuts about that youtube thing, I just knew that me and you staying in contact just now was doing you no good,
it was obvious. I deleted you from the xbox list because I didnt want you sitting playing the bloody thing then I come
on and remind you about it all. If I'm constantly in your face or talking to you I think that makes you worse.
I understand though about what you said about getting frustrated and angry looking for things to blame it all on. Sometimes
it feels like I'm making things worse for you by keeping in contact because when you say it makes you feel better to speak
to me, that means it's giving you a sense of us still together so you will never beable to get on with your life.
Just read the bit you said about people saying it gets easier in time. Well yeh, it does, but I'm not going to say that
to you, because people said it to me after I split with Lisa and you just dont believe them when you go through all this.
I have done more thinking than bloody ever over the last few weeks (took my name out), and as much as I hate saying it to you - I
dont want to be in a relationship just now and if i was going to be it would be with you. This has got nothing to do with anything you have done - infact you couldn't have
done more at times to try make it work! I want to and need to sort myself out, and only I can do that. It would be wrong
for me to feel this way and carry on as if everything was fine. I would just be kidding myself on and lieing to you as well
and you deserve better than that and dont ever think any different. You sounded really positive when you sent that xbox
message yesterday about getting on better and it was nice to hear you say it. Even if I say that a bit from a selfish
point of view because I feel less of a prick knowing that you're ok.
Hope you can make some sense out of this email.....
(took his name out) Xx
There is so much i have forfotten to write but my head is mush
She lives in AMERICA!!!!!!! WTF They have not met, YET!!!
She told me he told her he loves her (When i asked him he said she was thick, then later said he has feelings for her) she tells him also that she loves him!
This is what it says on his profile
This is what her's says
Im # 1 Bitch as im told and im inlove with the mover and thats all i can tell you . he loves me as much as i love him and only time tells where we will go with this. either way we got a strong friendship that'll go to the moon and back. and NOONE can destroy that!!!!
He has been telling her the same things he told me years ago when i met him on "Paltalk"
She was shouting etc that i need to get over it blah blah and i have not text him for 2 weeks so how can i be angry and upset, i told him last night that was because i was giving him time to think about everything was gvinn him a month.
He told her that he was not in love with me anymore so finsihed it (that was not the reason, the reason was becuase his work and the distance yet he is seeing her 300 miles away)
I went mad on the phone to him as when we finsihed it was to let him sort his life out.
he told me few weeks ago " I would be gutted and hurt if you went with anyone else", He told me he didnt want to be with anyone right now and if he was going to be it would be me, I recieved an email 22nd August saying he needs to sort himself out and he wants better for me, he doesnt want to hurt me and if there was anyone else he would tell me (well he hasnt i had to find out by chance)
He sent her 400 dollars (dont know why), He is flying her and him to New York first week of November (he is paying for it all)
Am i wrong to be upset, angry?
I dont know what to do i have called him about a million times i want answers, why.
here is the email i recieved i also have texts from him saying he wants to be with me but not just now as he needs to sort himself out. What i to do?
Your letter arrived this morning and i have just finished reading through it, and that's good you feel a bit better
after writing everything down. Thought I'd send an email as a reply.
Firstly, the night of that call when we said about finishing, that was the result of a quite a few things that had been
building up over a while. Mostly to do with the distance, and my work getting worse with the extra weekends working
that meant even less time I would see you, and it just pushed everything over the edge, (that was the main thing that call
was about). I was feeling so damn frustrated and annoyed at it all, and seriously fed up. I didn't expect things to finish with
that phone call either, but after it was said something clicked in my head and I just knew it was the right thing to do, it
was something that needed to happen.
The following few days I went over everything a million times in my head, and even though I felt/feel like shit, I was still
certain it was the right thing for me - even though by this time you were saying otherwise and wanting to sort it, which
was in turn making me feel even worse for making the decision to stick by what had already been said.
This part you might not want to hear, but bullshitting you I'm not going to do. You know one of the positive things I felt
in the following days? It was like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders with regards to the travelling, and my work.
I mind standing there with a rosta and all of a sudden realising I didnt have to try and sort out days off or look ahead
and worry about when I can or cant get up and dread having to tell you I couldn't make it, then in turn get pissed off
with myself once again about it all ect God that stuff really got me down. (To push that point even further again, this
weekend would have been out as well because I'm working today and tomorrow).
When you talk about me trying to get you out of my life, that isn't what I was trying to do. When you phoned me
going nuts about that youtube thing, I just knew that me and you staying in contact just now was doing you no good,
it was obvious. I deleted you from the xbox list because I didnt want you sitting playing the bloody thing then I come
on and remind you about it all. If I'm constantly in your face or talking to you I think that makes you worse.
I understand though about what you said about getting frustrated and angry looking for things to blame it all on. Sometimes
it feels like I'm making things worse for you by keeping in contact because when you say it makes you feel better to speak
to me, that means it's giving you a sense of us still together so you will never beable to get on with your life.
Just read the bit you said about people saying it gets easier in time. Well yeh, it does, but I'm not going to say that
to you, because people said it to me after I split with Lisa and you just dont believe them when you go through all this.
I have done more thinking than bloody ever over the last few weeks (took my name out), and as much as I hate saying it to you - I
dont want to be in a relationship just now and if i was going to be it would be with you. This has got nothing to do with anything you have done - infact you couldn't have
done more at times to try make it work! I want to and need to sort myself out, and only I can do that. It would be wrong
for me to feel this way and carry on as if everything was fine. I would just be kidding myself on and lieing to you as well
and you deserve better than that and dont ever think any different. You sounded really positive when you sent that xbox
message yesterday about getting on better and it was nice to hear you say it. Even if I say that a bit from a selfish
point of view because I feel less of a prick knowing that you're ok.
Hope you can make some sense out of this email.....
(took his name out) Xx
There is so much i have forfotten to write but my head is mush
