GF cant reach orgasm ! :(

in Sex and Intimacy » Sex Tips and Advice • 3 years ago

Iv been dating my gf for 6 months now and yesterday she hit me with a bomb shell. She never had a orgasm thru penetration with me or with her preveos lovers. Dint know it till yesterday coz she was faking it the whole 6 months and i dint think she was coz im realy open about sex so from day 1 i asked her what she prefers,likes,dislikes so dint expect nor feal that she would have the need to fake it.She can reach it thru rubbing her clitoris but not thru penetration.What im about to say might sound as bragging but realy im just trying to show all aspects of the problem, i have a 22 cm penis and rly good control so we have been known to have sex for hours without any problem but what turned me on the most was the idea that she was enjoying it much more than i was and thats why she told me she dint want to tell me anything before.I know i can get her to cumm with fingers, oraly etc. but i rly want her to get it throu penetration so my question is ....how can i get my gf to reach a orgasm thru penetration?All i rly want is my gf to be happy with all aspects of a relationship coz i know that when she is happy it reflects on me to.

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Replies(12)

Beagle

Re: GF cant reach orgasm ! :(

3 years ago

This is usually a lack of stimulation of the clitoris. Many women can't climax with only vaginal stimulation. You need to do some research on positions that stimulate the clitoris and also the g-spot stimulation activities. Also, many women need manual stimulation after intercourse to finally reach climax.

There are many great books and videos on this subject.

Just a suggestion, you will probably get more responses if you pay more attention to typing and grammar.

femaleorg..

Give her an A spot orgasm

3 years ago

The A spot is 3-4 inches (about a finger long) on the front wall of the vagina. It is also called the anterior fornix or deep spot. First train her A spot with your middle finger. Use plenty of grapeseed oil as lubricant and put your middle finger into her vagina. Go in deep and begin "scooping" her A spot out. You're manually contracting her orgasm muscles so she has no choice but to cum. It will take a while at first because she won't be familiar with the sensations. Persist until you give her an A spot orgasm. When she cums, you will feel her anus involuntarily contract.

Give her 3 more A spot orgasms with your middle finger and then use your penis.

Here's a diagram:

scarbowl

Re: GF cant reach orgasm ! :(

3 years ago

Beagle is right. Actually, only around a quarter of women reach orgasm through penetration. The clitoris for them is like the men's penis. It isn't the ONLY way to reach orgasm but it is the major reliable one. Women just aren't biologically designed to orgasm through intercourse. It has nothing to do with your prowess, the size of your penis, etc.

You can help her orgasm DURING intercourse, however, by allowing her to use her hand or a vibrator. You might even enjoy the feeling of her hand down there or the vibrations themselves. This is something you can share.

janice2009

Re: GF cant reach orgasm ! :(

3 years ago

Dig this, there are approximately 8,000 nerve endings on the tip of the clitoris - more than anywhere else on the entire human body whereas the penis has only 4,000 nerve endings. You could try using a vibe with a strap-on. That'll assist with the clitoral stimulation she needs.

caiti_dan..

i understand

3 years ago

many girls cant reach orgasm its normal you shou try now things like clitoral stimulation it may help :) thanks

Mr. Manpo..

The Answer is in the Clit

2 years ago

Most definitely...you should learn some oral techniques, or other positions to improve stimulation to the clitoris.

Check out these two blog entries I wrote...you may find some use in them:

Sexual Positions to Make a Woman Orgasm

and

How I Make a Woman Orgasm from Penetration alone, and in Under 5 Minutes

Also...don't get frustrated...it is very important to be patient...

el_kapitan

Re: GF cant reach orgasm ! :(

2 years ago

A lot more women than you think can have vaginal orgasms. It just usually takes a penis with above average girth in combination with the right motion. Also if your penis is long but not wide enough it could actually be uncomfortable for a woman.

peterochs

Re: GF cant reach orgasm ! :(

2 years ago

Originally posted by: janice2009
Dig this, there are approximately 8,000 nerve endings on the tip of the clitoris - more than anywhere else on the entire human body whereas the penis has only 4,000 nerve endings. You could try using a vibe with a strap-on. That'll assist with the clitoral stimulation she needs.

Are you f-ing serious? And then on top of that up to 70% of mens' nerve endings are cut off and REMOVED thru circumcision?
And then wait wait, we're supposed to give a flying f-ck if a woman even orgasms or not?
Dig this, so considering the male orgasm is equivalent to about 15% of a females' how about we just make that ratio the norm? Every 15 times a guy orgasms a woman should have an orgasm. And then if she doesn't, she needs to get on some prescription because obviously something is wrong with her. At least that's how it rolls with guys and Viagra. If a 15% nerve ending man isn't able to ten-hut within seconds, he obviously needs a pill huh.
Woman not orgasming? Sounds like cause to legalize Ecstacy as a woman's sex aid! LOL

femaleorg..

Please follow forum rules

2 years ago

Originally posted by: PJ@1970
Are you f-ing serious? And then on top of that up to 70% of mens' nerve endings are cut off and REMOVED thru circumcision?
And then wait wait, we're supposed to give a flying f-ck if a woman even orgasms or not?
Dig this, so considering the male orgasm is equivalent to about 15% of a females' how about we just make that ratio the norm? Every 15 times a guy orgasms a woman should have an orgasm. And then if she doesn't, she needs to get on some prescription because obviously something is wrong with her. At least that's how it rolls with guys and Viagra. If a 15% nerve ending man isn't able to ten-hut within seconds, he obviously needs a pill huh.
Woman not orgasming? Sounds like cause to legalize Ecstacy as a woman's sex aid! LOL

This is not a forum for abusive comments.

theresa_d..

she is normal

2 years ago

theres a lot of mental issues too.....for most women it takes reliable rhythm and consistency to reach orgasm until they canlearn to focus on the orgasm alone.....you may be the type of man who spends ample time on her as you should but be defeated by her mind thinking "oh god what if he stops im so close"and then her dropping her arousal levels as a result.sometimes if she knows she can masterbate to orgasm she can masterbate for you so you can see what her speed is like her favorite spot and such....also please do not underestimate the value of good lubrication .

keep in mind a large part of women do not have orgasms during sex ,some only have orgasms form oral sex,some only from masterbation....it doesnt mean she if defective.if you love her then you should want to help her to get there....and it may be a long hard road....im sure however since you have experienced an orgasm or two before you would want her to experience the same pleasure

the fact she told you she cant reach orgasm through penetration means she really really trusts you ,im sure she is willing to try to fix that with your help

Mr. Manpo..

Re: GF cant reach orgasm ! :(

2 years ago

On this same topic, I've had another pretty incredible experience with my lady, and I wrote a blog entry about it...for anybody looking for ways to make your girl orgasm, this is worth reading:

Words from my Girlfriend last night: “That was the best sex I’ve ever had…I came twice.”

Don't mean to brag or anything...but it was one of the best sexual experiences I've had.

Have a great weekend!

theresa_d..