GF Orgasm problem (plateau-ing)

in Sex and Intimacy » Sex Tips and Advice • 2 years ago

Ok so my girlfriend has never had an orgasm with anybody, either through oral, masturbation or intercourse. However recently I have been able to get her to a point of near-orgasm through masturbation (she doesn't like oral)- she gets extremely wet, her clitoris becomes much more erect and her vagina begins to contract a little.

The problem is after this point she she reaches a plateau and can't actually reach the orgasm. She also usually says at this point something like "I can't.." or some sign of frustration about not being able to climax, even though she wants to.

Anybody have any tips or advice on what to do at this point to get her over the hump? It literally feels like she's right there but there is just something blocking it.

Thanks guys

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Xero

Re: GF Orgasm problem (plateau-ing)

2 years ago

Ask her whats wrong when she gets there. From what it sounds shes on the verge of having one. Women usually take awhile to warm up to have an orgasm.

If shes not feeling pain at that time then there is kind of no reason to stop. She might be afraid of having one or some sensation is making her stop.

If she feels like she has to pee, its not pee that's the female orgasm's ejaculate. It's called squirting and its normal. She may also require more stimulation if possiable you could use your other hand to massage her bests. You could also make out with her while your fingering her. Each girl is different and it takes different things to get them off.

I'm going to give you some videos and a diagram to show you where the A and G spot is. I can only explain the G because that one is easy to find, the A I have no clue becasue I am still a virgin.

The G spot is on the inside of the vagina, its on the belly button side and its about half an inch in. It's going to be a rough/ruffled spot of skin and you are going to want to just massage it. Make sure your nails are trimmed and don't push too hard or you could scrape here and that wouldn't be good. This again could give her the feeling of the need to pee, its not pee, just have her squirt it out for a really good orgasm. The walls of her vagina are also going to contract and push your hand out, that's because of the orgasm.

If you have any questions just ask. I might have forgot something.

Originally posted by: FemaleOrgasm
YouTube - Female orgasm | C spot | Clitoris| Demonstration with rubber vagina
YouTube - Female orgasm | G spot | Female ejaculation | Squirting | Demonstration with rubber vagina
YouTube - Female orgasm | A spot | Demonsration with rubber vagina

xyz_danje..

Re: GF Orgasm problem (plateau-ing)

2 years ago

Having your first orgasm can be very exciting. some women are afraid of it though. the feelings you get are new to you, you behave in a way you may not be abel to controll. I think some women might be afraid of letting go because they are afraid of the reaction of thier partners.
Sometimes it is better to make this experience on your own first. once one knows the very personal behavior during an orgasm it might be easier to orgasm while the partner is present.

When the girl is almost there but seems to hold it back you can help her to relax and orgasm. just tell her in a kind way (e.g. whisper in her ear) something like:

think of nothing, just don't do anything, don't move for 10 seconds, hold on to my hand, i take care of you, i'm just giving you great feelings, you don't have to orgasm, just do whatever you feel like, don't think about it......

This might help her to relax knowing that she is not responsible for anything. she doesn't HAVE to orgasm.

If that doesn't work you may talk about it and agree on not to go for the goal for the next 4 weeks or so. this might take the pressure off. she is possibly to much focused on having an orgasm.

whatever you do, show her how you love being intimate with her.
sex can be great without an orgasm, too

good luck