Ask Dan & Jennifer

I would suggest talk with her, and find out what she wants you to do, maybe she want's anal, maybe she wants fingers or something. There are alot of woman who just can't get the Big O threw intercourse.

Talk to her and see what she suggests.

Wolfhowl

AKA

Tamar in Edmonton

The best person to ask is your g/f and fortunately women,which are plentiful on here.

Not all women cum through intercourse but a lot do when you go down on them. When you're having sex,ask her what feels good. Heck,ask her that anytime actually.:D Usually there's a position that makes her feel really "tingly."



When you're eating her out,at times it can take a long time for her to cum also.Depends on her mood,what turns her on,the location and the positioning. You have to find out how she likes it and the where,when and the how. Some ladies may take an hour or more,soft slow licks along the clit.There was one lady i was with who would take an hour or more. She had an innie. Got my tongue loads of practice lol. You have to be patient.Some may enjoy that,along with your fingers in her. Find out her turn-ons.

Have fun doing it. You may need to set the mood or it be spontaneous.Focus on her pleasure. Don't be in such a rush to get yourself off.Explore her body. One author wrote

look at sex as pleasure across a continuum that involves all the experiences of making love: touch you give to your partner, the smell, the taste, vision.

Don't look at foreplay as work.Many women can cum in a variety of activities,some do in all,yet you have to find the "hot spots" on your partner.
You get her off and she'll recipricate even better.
Good luck.

Unfortunately, the number one thing I'd advise for a quick fix is a vibrator.
I've been there (am there) and while I'm constantly searching for new ideas to help bring out my orgasms, the number one thing that has helped me is vibrators.

A simple, low cost vibrator (bought at a store or online at places like AdamEve.com or EdenFantasys, or anywhere else!) can (and probably will) do wonders for her. And you can get some of them for as little as $8.

Experiment with a simple discreet vibrator while you're fingering or going down on her. If you're having sex, have her hold it over her clitoris to stimulate it during intercourse, it can be awesome.
After some communication and experimentation, a well used vibrator can do wonders.


Encourage her to masturbate as well, especially with the vibrator, so she can get used to her own body, how it feels, what works, what doesn't, etc.

I'd also recommend this book I'm currently reading- The Orgasm Loop. I just started reading it and it's already begun to help.

Good luck, don't give up!

~Sin

usually girls like the monin wen the guy is down there cuz its an extra boost sukin the clit also play with her upper body too:D

Ok, hereare somemore ideas I wuld like to add to the above mentioned ones:

First of all relax! Make an atmosphere where she will feel cosy, confortable, romantic.
Really maybe talk to her, ask her what makes her confortable. Maybe she wants the lights on or of, maybe she would prefer keeping her clothes on, maybe she would like to do it in the kitchen...and if she happens not to know, then be open to try out it together with her. be creative, explore together what is good for her. Some women do not know what they want, like and need help with that.

The make her feel sexy, beautiful and wanted not just when u make love. Show your love, show that you care for her, your feelings for her. Hug her, be gentle to her, do the dishes of things insteda of her , or something like that. tell her when you like what she is wearing. Compliment her. It will make her feel more confortable and trise her self asteem. Many women cant orgasm because they do not feel confortable with something. Communicate with her and find out not what is wrong, but what makes her feel good, what she likes.

And important one! Sex is not about reachingthe goal! Orgasm happens, but it is not the goal. Put focus on intimacy, being together, having FUN together, enjoying each other presence. I myself cant orgasm when so much pressure is put on getting it there! IN situations like this aman can be doing all the right thingsfor hours if he wants and will never get me there. women orgasm starts in her head- in her thought, in the way how she feels , in the intimacy she enjoys LONG, I mean here very very long foreplay can help...and dont quit working on her. Some women need lots of time, and that is how they are. It is rather frustrating when your boyfreind stops it, because he is tired and u have almost got there!

Also read all you can about what women like in general, what techniques and maybe toys you could use. I thiknthe more u know about women sexuality, the easier you will know how to get her there.

And the most important: communicate, communicate, communicate. Pay attention to her while you make love, maybe even ask her. Talk to her before, during and after.

I wish you good luck, and I hope all this helps

Barbara