We were introduced to swinging through a drama on CBS called Swing Town that ran for one season in the Summer of 2008. It was about a couple that moved to a new neighborhood and found that their very friendly neighbors were swingers. It takes place in the 70s. This show started the discussion for us which eventually led us to swinging which we've been doing for over a year now. Perhaps you could bring home the DVD set of the show if it is available and tell your wife that a friend recommended it and watch it together and see how she reacts to the story lines and you can use it as a means of bringing up the subject naturally :-)