How Do I Deal With My Bf still talking to his ex's?

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 3 years ago

My bf is a really nice guy, I understand that. but this friend who didnt date, but had a friends with benefits kinda thing. they are just friends. but she constantly is telling him she loves him and always calls late. he said she is just an affecionate person
but i know that when you are just friends with someone you dont talk that way to them
we keep fighting over it and i dont know what to do, he says its because im insecure and jealous. but i think she is stepping over the friend boundries. any suggestions?
I just want this to be resolved but everytime i try explaining why it bothers me he tells me im childish and insecure

Replies(2)

leash_dan..

problems

3 years ago

you need to tell him that him talking to his ex girlfriend really bothers you and that you want him to stop. you have to be forward with guys and tell them exactly

Beagle

Re: How Do I Deal With My Bf still talking to his ex's?

3 years ago

Leash is, once again, right on the money. Guys don't do well with hints. You tell him how you feel. He will either say "OK" or continue his behavior. Then, you decide whether to accept his behavior or end the relationship.

One thing you might want to consider, is this really that big of a deal? Are you and he serious enough that it's really important to try to put limits on who he talks to? If a guy is going to cheat, trying to set limits won't change that. If he's someone you can trust, why upset yourself? Why not become her friend too? That's just a suggestion for a possible alternative approach. Some battles really aren't worth fighting.