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I guess it depends on what type of corset you're talking about. Is it the rib-breaking kind or the kind made of cloth? Just kidding.

But no, you DO NOT need psychiatric help. Fantasies are perfectly healthy. From your description you don't want to hurt anyone, so it's cool.


It seems like a harmless fantasy - not unlike how a lot of girls dress for Halloween. Just make sure you're in an honest relationship (girlfriend, just sexual or whatever) and you're comfortable enough to talk about it. But don't forget to think about returning the favor if she has one as well.


What I'm really curious about is if you have a specific color you want the girl to wear. Should her makeup be color coordinated with the corset? Do you think about the underwear? Like would you prefer a thong or those really frilly 50s-ish undies?

When did this start?

I agree with Cocky, you are not in need of psychological help. This seems like a very normal fantasy, no pain, very sexy clothing, and normal sexual desires... I think you're fine :)
As far as introducing this to a girl, is it a girl you already have a relationship with, or are you looking for someone currently? If you're looking (on something like AFF), I would say it wouldn't hurt to mention you enjoy fetish wear. There are plenty of girls who enjoy dressing as you describe. If it's someone you're already with, well this can be even more fun. I'm sure there is an adult store somewhere near you, whether it's the nice bright new kind designed for couples, or the trench coat, midnight bad side of town kind (which couples still go to). Either way, you could surprise her and go to one of these stores, and when you happen upon the clothing area (you might wana scout the place out first, to make sure they have what you like) you can mention to her how incredibly sexy she would look in this corset. Tell her how much it would turn you on to see her in that. Then you can build up the wardrobe. Offer to buy it for her if she's willing to wear it for you. (Note, this stuff can get very expensive, you might need to build up the collection slowly)
And again, as Cocky said, don't forget to reciprocate if she has a fantasy. This could be a lot of fun to explore with each other.

Have fun and good luck! Keep us posted.

As far as the color goes; the corset, stockings, heels, gloves, and underwear must all match. I prefer white the best, black the second best, light pink third, and light blue fourth. I don't really like red, green, purple, or brown. The eye shadow only has to be dark, like dark blue, with a little silver to make it shiny. Lipstick has to look good with the outfit.
Regarding underwear; I like frilly 50s-ish / french maid like undies. However, thong underwear doesn't turn me off, it's just a tad bit less arousing. Of course, I like big, but not insanely big, boobs. The corset should prop them up and emphasize them, but not break ribs, lol. The platform high heels must have a strap above the ankle, and not be the kind a girl can just slip on and off like flip-flops.
Last but not least, the girl herself. I like a girl who is especially white. Not albino white at all, just the kind that is not tan. That encompasses my ultimate fetish. Talk about specific, right? This whole fantasy started for me at the very beginning of puberty. Basically at the same time I started masturbating :o . Approximately 10 years ago.

In response to you, K. Thank you for all the advice. It's a girl I just started seeing, which is why I'm a little nervous about introducing this concept just yet. Are you saying I should take her to the adult store with me, or go alone? If I went alone, I wouldn't know what size to get and I know girls are self conscious and don't like to tell their sizes. If I took her with me, how would I entice her to enter the store with me? If she plays along with my fantasy, I'd have no problem asking if she had one as well, and fulfill hers. I also have some other minor fetishes that aren't really prevalent, like the catholic school girl, maid, secretary, and librarian looks. I'd be content with just the one I mentioned. Again, thanks for your help K, and I'll definitely keep you posted on any developments. :)

Well, I would suggest scouting out the store alone first, to make sure they carry the kind of stuff you like... then take her along. Just kinda go about it in a silly, laughing way. Most people seem to be very intrigued as to what is inside those places, but are too embarrassed to go in. If you kind of make a joke of it to go in, but then act kind of turned on when inside it should ease it for her a little. It would be best if it's one of the nicer places that people don't mind going into during daylight hours. But you can still make it fun and kind of goofy to get in. Then you can joke around a little inside, but when you "mysteriously happen upon" the corset and stuff you like you can tell her how amazing she'd look in it :)

That's a great idea. I'll definitely need to scout around, because I'm not sure where the nice versions of these stores are. Actually, there is a store in the mall, I just don't know if they have the clothing I'm looking for. I'll check it out. I'll have to practice what I'll say to get her into the store with me and drawing her to the idea without seeming like I am pressuring her.