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You could possibly give him a hand job or blow job.

That would be a simple solution.

That never affected me. I was with a girl who did the same thing.
That's hot. Don't be ashamed.

Agreed with Slitty. I find that to be quite hot as well. If you're cumming a lot then that means he's pleasuring you the right way. Just enjoy it.

Simultaneous orgasms may be the answer. Pay attention to each other's body and squeeze each other's hands when either of you gets to the tipping point. This means one partner will have to slow down and the other partner will have to catch up.

I have suggested that in the past. He doesn't feel like he's done his job unless he gets me off multiple times--he's even tried to get me to pass out. I won't because I am a tough gal.

Anyway, the point is really this: He has to be in control and wants things to occur in the bedroom as he thinks in his mind they should occur. He didn't have this trouble until he started pleasuring me the right way and it has become an issue.

I tried to give him blow jobs or hand jobs and he is really open to that. But he is a ass man and that is where he gets the most pleasure from anal sex. Unfortunately, now he is not able to orgasm all the time--they changed his medication for his depression--and that is affecting his "ego". He ends up frustrated and goes to bed with a hard-on. He finds me hot and sexy and he feels he is getting the short end of the stick--no pun intended.

I will suggest to him again that we should try to orgasm together at least once a week in the beginning until he can work out why his member is not playing fair.

Thanks for your advice! Thanks everyone for your encouragement. Even he said that this is not my fault--but I LOVE to please my man and its driving me bonkers!!

Barbiedoll

I agree. He has not done his job properly unless he gets you off multiple times.

I think the problem is his anti-depressants because they're suppressing his orgasm.

Tell him to try emotional freedom techniques instead. "EFT" is acupuncture without out the needles and can "cure" depression in minutes. It is so powerful that it can even cure depression and post-traumatic stress disorder of rape vicitms and shell-shocked soldiers. Watch's more, it is free.

Here's a video showing the procedure:



And here's an ebook: EFT Training - Your Free EFT Get Started Package

And, in making sure he's doing his job properly, I hope that when you do anal that he is also giving you anal orgasms.

Originally posted by: Barbiedoll

Unfortunately, now he is not able to orgasm all the time--they changed his medication for his depression--and that is affecting his "ego".

This is your problem.

Depression medication has adverse affects on orgasm's It can even hinder people from orgasming.

. Unfortunately, now he is not able to orgasm all the time--they changed his medication for his depression--and that is affecting his "ego". He ends up frustrated and goes to bed with a hard-on. He finds me hot and sexy and he feels he is getting the short end of the stick--no pun intended.

Nobody is his Doctor so it's dangerous to try to convince a person who is being treated for depression to discontinue their medication.
Many of these drugs have that effect in the beginning, but as the body adjusts to it, the side effects will dissipate. Everyone reacts differently to each drug.
This is a common side effect with this class of drugs.
Sometimes you will stumble upon one that helps with your symptoms and doesn't have this negative effect on you.
I found that prozac (Fluoxetine) is well tolerated and I have no problem achieving orgasm.
As well, Wellbutrin (bupropion) is an antidepressant that has no sexual side effects. In fact, it's supposed to enhance orgasm.