Ask Dan & Jennifer

--you dont!

I can't emphasize it enough.

NEVER tell a girl how you feel about her. By doing so, you give away all your power. It will drop her attraction for you as her 'nice guy' radar, which repulses them by the way, will start flashing a red alert.

It is MUCH better to keep her guessing. Anticipation is one of her alltime favorites.

Lastly, If she wants to have the talk about 'where this is going', let her. But this in itself is something lots of guys dread, with good reason.

alright that makes since this is the first girl i havever really liked and i just and a bit ignorant of what to do so thants to everyon for the advice but ya id lik at least some measure of confirmation from te last response cause tat is a bit diffeentfrom what ive heard in the past

Originally posted by: Denilson
--you dont! I can't emphasize it enough.

NEVER tell a girl how you feel about her. By doing so, you give away all your power. It will drop her attraction for you as her 'nice guy' radar, which repulses them by the way, will start flashing a red alert.

It is MUCH better to keep her guessing. Anticipation is one of her alltime favorites.

Lastly, If she wants to have the talk about 'where this is going', let her. But this in itself is something lots of guys dread, with good reason.

To each his own of course, but we disagree with this approach. "keep her guessing" falls in the category of playing games and dishonesty. Flirting and seeing where the mating ritual goes is one thing - and taht's perfectly fine - but keep it straight and honest, no head games.

Depends on your goals of course, but for most guys who are trying and hoping they'll just get a girlfriend - not a one night stand with a woman they'll never see again - honesty is important.

Of course going up to her and saying "I have to tell you have i feel about you - i love you so much - do you like me too?" is a really, really, really bad idea. it does indeed lower your value somewhat in her opinion, but it also makes you seem unaware.

Unless she's completely oblivious - or you go to great lengths to hide how you feel (i.e. pretending to be gay), she probably knows just how you feel. The "wow, i had no idea you liked me" business is for the movies.

What she doesn't know is if you have the "cajones" to take it to the next level, to flirt with her, to acknowledge (albeit in a subtle way) that you do like her "that way", to spend special and intimate time with her, i.e. a date. She needs to know you're serious.

If you like her, act like you like her, spend time with her, get to know her better, get close to her emotionally and physically (note: just to be clear, this does not mean stalking).

Yes, there's always the possibility that she doesn't like you "that way", just as a friend. yes, it's possible. but guess what - if that's the case, down deep you already know. You feel the attraction, the electricity if it's there. But do you want to keep pretending and never knowing? That's no way to live.

So is it there? And if so, what are you going to do about it?

Let us know how it goes.

Dan

thank you sooo musch for this i dont have the cajones to do it i think and i want i try and try to flirt but im just not good at it and i like her soo much i tend to over think things and im tired of it i want her to be with me and most of all i want to make her as happy and she was when i through her a birthday party last week and by god i am not going to bullshit around any more

thx again but 1 question

"how do i know when its time?"

if i dont know that than ill overthink it and never do it thx