Ask Dan & Jennifer

When ever you feel ready. That is the best thing I can say. Never let yourself be pressured into it, I made that mistake. And I am not a porn guy, not even a guy so...lol. But yes, when ever you feel ready. Know who it is, and know a little about them, like STD's, etc. ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM!!! Regardless of whether they have been tested for STD's or not, or whether she says she is on birth control or not. I dont know how old you are, but (to me) that makes a difference. I was too young. Now I am talking moraly, not physically. But I hoped this helped out a lil. Let me know if you have any other questions.

Samantha

I agree. I remember asking myself when I would want to lose my virginity, and I chose to wait until I felt like I was ready. I lost my virginity when I knew that I wouldn't regret it.

I was on eof the unlucky ones, who gave mine away due to peer pressure, every one else was loosing theirs, and I felt left out. After numerous partners, I kick myself every day for not saving it for my husband, whom I've been married to now for 1 year (together for 2). I also hate the fact that he has more than numerous partners, I feel as if something was taking from me, and I took something from him. It is a sacred thing that should be shared with some one very special. (comming from a 23 year old woman, I learned too fast, lol.)

Samantha

You seem young :)
You know what , the best time to loose it is when your ready , i have lost mine , im 16 , i lost it when i was 14 . But you know what i was ready , and i was protected . As long as you know your stuff , and you emotionally and physically prepared all should be fine . And no matter what the bloke says , use a condom ! The pull out methord [ Him taking it out before he cums] won't work. If he pressurizes you , say ' sure babe , let's have kids ! we could name them...' If that don't help , kick where the sun don't shine , and find someone who wants YOU , not just your body =]

Hope i helped x

Babyvain is so right. I like the idea on suggesting names for your kids, lmao. But she is also right on the fact that the pull method absolutely does not work!!!!!!! I have three kids, and have been pregnant 4 times, a couple of those times he pulled out! So yes, protection or dont do it!!!!!!!!

Legally or unofficially? Because some people are ready before the legal age of consent and many who are over it are still not ready. Turning 16, or 18 or whatever the law is in your area does not magically make you ready. What makes you ready is a certain level of maturity, awareness and self-confidence. In other words are you sensible enough to take all the health and safety precautions into account? if not then your not ready. Are you ready to deal with the emotional impacts that sex often has on your life? If not then your not ready. Are you prepaired to potentially deal with the consequences of your actions (such as becoming a parent, or chosing to abort)? If not then your not ready. Sadly it is difficult to tell if your ready, because sex is not really like anything else so you never really know the true nature of it until you have it!

However, that I think it is a question that can only be answered by a lot of introspection, self reflection and critical thinking, all of which takes maturity and honesty to do. Just be honest, if you feel your not ready, there is no shame in that, do not feel pressured into having sex before your ready! It has to be your decision. Do not make the decision lightly! For many feel they are ready, but really, they are not! Consider that!

But if you have really, really thought about it and come to the conclusion that your ready, and that this is truly what you want...go for it!