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You need to throw that caution to the wind and just ask.

I mean the worst she can do is say no. Besides if shes a nice girl I bet she will say yes just to see how things go.

I'll try but this is easier said that done. There is this movie coming out febuary 8(Dear John) and I was hoping I would get a date by then cause it's a good love movie and I can try and make some moves.(I don't think I'm making much sense if u understand me then u r not human lol)
thanks for the reply

Originally posted by: Dude guy
There is this movie coming out febuary 8(Dear John) and I was hoping I would get a date by then cause it's a good love movie and I can try and make some moves.(I don't think I'm making much sense if u understand me then u r not human lol)

I actually understood what you said in this sentence so now you're telling me that you think I'm inhuman, huh?

Jokes aside, let's see what your issue is here.

the only problem is that I'm scared to ask girls from my school out cause they will think I like them and ruin the relationship.

Ok, what is this "relationship" that you have the girls at school? I'm guessing they are just friends who happen to be girls? Let's pretend for a minute that you are not friends/acquaintances with ANY girls at your school. Is there even one that you like or caught your attention? My guess is, there is, otherwise you wouldn't be posting about this.

Now for the part where you said you wanted to take a girl to a movie. I think you've got things backwards here. Usually, you have to have a gf or a date first BEFORE you decide to pick a movie to go watch together. I'll just add one more thing before I end this. You don't have to be bf/gf in order to go see a movie together. It's possible for a relationship to bloom from that but if there's any friend whatsoever who you could ask to go see the movie with, then ask her.

All I really want is a gf. Preferably someone at my school so that we can be together during the day. I just mentioned the movie cause I was thinking about this girl and her favorite actor is in the movie(i forgot to write about that). Yes i havé a crush on this girl but i cant rly get her attracted to me. I go up and talk to her and stuff but thats it. Its incredibly hard to make her laugh. I would tell her a joke and she wouldn't find it funny but if I tell the same joke to other ppl they will think it's hilarious or when a teacher makes a joke and evryone would laugh she would be the only one not laughing. She's a fun person to be with (she's not some emo goth girl or a nerd i think she takes some things seriously but other things she's laugh at it's rly complicated)
I have another story and question. I went up to this hot girl in my class and asked her if she had a bf she said no I then said yesss(I wasn't trying to flirt with her or anything evrything I said that in a joking way). She laughed and asked me if I thought she deserved someone(a bf). I said yes evryone deserves someone. I then said"ur someone who's rly independant and u have a strong character and I like that" (I didn't say this in a joking way). She then laughed and I left to go to my seat cause the bell was gonna ring. What does this mean why did she ask me this

anyways ya...
Thanks in advance

I can't figure out what your issue is. Try to clear your head and post again. Your thoughts are going all over the place right now.

There are 2 different stories about 2 different girls(story 1 girl 1, story 2 girl 2)
Ive been thinking and im not rly in love with any of the girl right now. If i were to get a date with one of them or wtv i would date them. I just need to know what to do and how to approach and get something going with girls at school.
thanks in advance

Just ask them in person in the hall "Would you like to see a movie this weekend?" Mall? Walk in some park? Bowling? anything.

A woman is not a math problem, it doesn't require an analysis to start a conversation with a person (either male or female). Just start a conversation and see where that leads you. When the time is right, you'll know when, that's when you ask them what you really want to ask them. Watch some of Dan and Jenn's videos on YouTube if you need more detailed instructions. There are a few of them that talk about how to start things off.

I dont have a problem doing that its just when a guy asks a girl out she automatically says in her head that the guy likes her and if she doenst feel the same way either she will decline or accept to go on the date but not enjoy herself. Either way when i see her at school it will always be awkward when were together and thats my biggest fear.

Hi, if I get it right you are afraid to ask a girl out because she will think you like her. Is that right? Well as far as I know the best way to get a girl is to make her feel that you like her, that she is special to you. Trust me, i'm a girl :)
Ok suppose you ask a girl who doesn't like you, she accepts and then you get a new chance to get her to like you by spending time with her. And if she says no then you move on - this might sound easy, and I don't know how you feel about being rejected, I know it can be really tough if you're afraid of being turned down, but you didn't mention that in your posts so I assumed you wouldn't have trouble moving on.
But I think maybe you shouldn't try so hard, and if you have a conection with someone at your school things will just happen, you don't have to force it. I'm not sure you would have a good time dating a girl you don't really like...

Yes when I would have a crush on a girl and the girl would find out, she would feel awkward around me and I would feel the same way so I wouldn't be able to talk to her for long. In grade 8 I loved a girl so much I would write her a love letter evryday.(today I don't have a crush on her anymore and she told me she has kept evry letter I sent to her and will keep them even if I insist she throws them in the garbage so I guess she rly liked them). I did make her feel special with the love letters but she didn't go out with me. And I worte 1 love letter to another girl I had a crush on and she didn't go out with me either.
In my life I've been rejected many times by girls(4 times) and I've been trying to forget about it but it's hard. I'm not a guy who doesn't justs asks a girl out cause she's hot, when i ask a girl out it's cause I feel something strong for her and I wanna be with her,in other words I love her. Now some say u only experience love once ur married but I don't think so. But I'm ready for change and I really want to have a gf. I'm 15 and have nevr had a gf nor have I kissed a girl(I know it's embarrising) but I want to love someone and I want to feel loved by a girl.(I'm sure u noticed by now that I'm somewhat romantic and a nice guy). So for me when a girl rejects me it's justs makes the list longer and I don't want that anymore. I would like to know what girls want in a man generaly or personaly.
Thanks in advance
PS: I'm not desperate I just want to be loved by a woman (my mom doesn't count here lool)
thanks on advance

Ok I see what you mean, why not asking girls from outside of school? This way you don't have to see them again if you get rejected. Anyway chances are if you ask a girl from your school she will get just as embarassed as you are afterwards, avoiding her should be pretty easy.

That's what I told myself but I'm not sure what's the best way to approach a girl i don't know. I've read alot of informations from many websites and I feel really confident but when it's time to act I chicken out. The fear of rejection doesn't scare me when it comes to girls i don't know. It's just i don't know what to say when a girl is with her friends. I have a lot of scenarios planned out in my head but I just can't put them in action. So my new question is how do I approach a girl and if ur a girl replying how would u like a man to hit on you.
Thanks in advance and I thank evryone who answered my posts

I'm a guy.

Yet I really would just walk up to her and start talking. It would probably be the best way. Its confidence, and can be a new exciting experience for you. I have recently just been jumping to do things at random. It's a big confidence booster and its fun to see what happens, because the other person is not usually ready for it.

So what you need is pick up lines? I don't think there is anything that works with all the girls, maybe you could try with a compliment about her outfit, her hair, something smart she said in class..But remember to be yourself, don't try to get a girl with an attitude that doesn't correspond to you. Good luck!

I've got confidence in myslf, I dress very well(I've been complemented on my style so I'm not worried about my looks) I think I just have to stop being scared to take the first step. Girls are human beings like boys and I think the problem is that most boys see a pretty girl as a godess. Ok I'll try something and if it works I will post something here.
Thank you for all the help u guys r AWESOME
ps: I know pick up lines don't work but I've got some pretty good conversation starters that r pick lines that do work(I know it's confusing)

I wish I had posted these earlier. Watch these two videos by Dan and Jenn. I think what they're saying in these are the answers you're looking for.

I know its been a while since ive posted anything here but thanks for the videos and all the advice.
If anyone has anymore advice on how to talk to girls, conversation starters, ect post them here please.
Thanks in advance