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I've been with my partner for 5 months and I love him very much. I know he loves me too. I've never felt so right in a relationship.
However the problem is that it seems my sexual needs are not fully satisfied. It's not that he does not like it, but he's so much in a rush when approching the issue, that I haven't got time to get really aroused, what REALLY I like. I want more touching, hugging and stroking before actual penetration, and when he wants to have sex it's almost always like "can I stick it to you?" And he immediately wants to do it.
I've already told him it's not the way it works for me, and tried to explain him or direct him how to make me aroused, but I don't want to hurt him. When I tell him this, he gets stressed that he's not doing it right, he looks so confused while touching me as if he has never done something like this. It so mechanical, that sometimes I get the impression he's an alien who learned it from instruction books only.
I'm 26 and he's 40 but he's sexual abilities are OK, I've had one long term boyfriend before him and everything was just fine. He's had partners before me too.
I don't want to hurt his feelings by constatnly instructing him how to touch me, because I can see it makes him sad. But I end up with the situation that we don't do it as often as I'd wish. And I can't stand the pressure, so I sometimes satisfiy my needs myself, what is really not what I want having a partner. I'd really want us to have this fun together. We have sex no more than twice a week, sometimes it's around once a week, and this is so frustrating.
Please help, we really love each other and we want to be together.
However the problem is that it seems my sexual needs are not fully satisfied. It's not that he does not like it, but he's so much in a rush when approching the issue, that I haven't got time to get really aroused, what REALLY I like. I want more touching, hugging and stroking before actual penetration, and when he wants to have sex it's almost always like "can I stick it to you?" And he immediately wants to do it.
I've already told him it's not the way it works for me, and tried to explain him or direct him how to make me aroused, but I don't want to hurt him. When I tell him this, he gets stressed that he's not doing it right, he looks so confused while touching me as if he has never done something like this. It so mechanical, that sometimes I get the impression he's an alien who learned it from instruction books only.
I'm 26 and he's 40 but he's sexual abilities are OK, I've had one long term boyfriend before him and everything was just fine. He's had partners before me too.
I don't want to hurt his feelings by constatnly instructing him how to touch me, because I can see it makes him sad. But I end up with the situation that we don't do it as often as I'd wish. And I can't stand the pressure, so I sometimes satisfiy my needs myself, what is really not what I want having a partner. I'd really want us to have this fun together. We have sex no more than twice a week, sometimes it's around once a week, and this is so frustrating.
Please help, we really love each other and we want to be together.
