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The big question is... what does he really like? What is it you say that turns him on most?

In most cases it's a matter of experimenting, but I'm guessing he's given you some hints as to what he likes... so you probably have a starting point... :)

I have that problem too! Every so often i could talk dirty and do it in a good way. :D but usually it's hard for me to talk dirty!

Like Dan and Jennifer said, I probably have an idea of what he likes but I still need some ideas of things to say. I have a few that I can say without much trouble but I need more ideas. I think I could be more confident about it if I had more ideas of what to say instead of trying to think of stuff to say at the time. How about some guys post and tell us what they like to hear? HELP!! ^_^

This is going to be quite specific to him, since it plays to his (usually secret) fantasies. So the idea here is for the two of you to share you "secret sex fantasies"... that would really help.

Yeah, there are definitely some common fantasies - check out 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/what-is-everyones-biggest-sex-fantasy' from 'http://forum.askdanandjennifer.com/topic/null' Forum here.

But I think they key here - and a wonderful thing for you two to do as a couple is to share you secret fantasies with one another.

Something we recommend for that is making a "fantasy box" - where you each put one piece of paper with one special fantasy... or ideally you each put a lot of them.

Then every now and then - maybe on Friday nights - you take turns who gets to pull out a fantasy from the box - and see if you both feel up to trying it. That way there's a lot less pressure, and it can be a lot of fun for you as a couple.

Hey GeekyJen, I found something pretty helpful and still looking for other things. I'm not sure if I'm allowed to post the link so if you would like it you can e-mail me. Hopefully, we are allowed to post our e-mails, not sure.

Well, we are allowed to post links but not e-mails. So here is what I found so far:
thisisby.us - Kylyssa's Sex Tips #6: Talk Dirty To Me, by kylyssa

Talking dirty and expressing your desires can be tricky even with someone you're intimate with. Reading erotic stories and letters can be a great way to find some sexy words and phrases to use. You'll still want to practice saying them out loud so you feel more comfortable.

There is a game for the iPhone called Succulent Expressions that you might find useful. You can play it as a stripping, drinking or foreplay game. Start playing with each other without sex involved first so you don't feel pressured. Then just get in the flow of the game and see where it leads.

Hope this helps. Talking sexy with the one you love can be a real turn-on.