I am in Love with my friend who I had sex with. What should I do?

in Love and Relationships » Love and Romance • 3 years ago

I have this guy friend for over a year it’s someone that I know a long time now. This weekend was the first time that we had sex. It was great. I asked him what is this we are having is it a friends with benefits and he said yes but as you said I got that feeling in my stomach and I knew I did something wrong. So I messaged him the next day and I said

“Hi good morning, although I enjoyed it yesterday I’m really sorry about what happened that’s not me or the lifestyle I’m willing to entertain, I like you a lot and I’m attracted to you and I don’t want to ruin a good friendship. I’m not the friends with benefits kind of girl I care too much about you and much more about me and my emotions sorry” his reply was

“Sorry I took so long to reply but I needed time to digest it all Its ok I understand but don’t have any hard feelings against me now. Still friends, without benefits!”

My problem is I like him a lot and I think that sleeping with him ruined any opportunities of a relationship and this worries me because he is a guy that I saw as a potential. He’s a great guy and I don’t want to lose him what could I do.

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saishuu

Re: I am in Love with my friend who I had sex with. What should I do?

3 years ago

Mel you may feel weird cos he is your friend, but you really put words into his mouth then

"is this we are having is it a friends with benefits?"

that's really putting your foot in your mouth there Mel.

and this...

“Hi good morning, although I enjoyed it yesterday I’m really sorry about what happened that’s not me or the lifestyle I’m willing to entertain, I like you a lot and I’m attracted to you and I don’t want to ruin a good friendship. I’m not the friends with benefits kind of girl I care too much about you and much more about me and my emotions sorry”

now you want to go out with him... so wasn't the above really the opposite to what you wanted to say?

But I completely understand that its very easy to get tongue tied when your confused and emotional.

Now you have had time to think are you sure you want to go out with him?

if you are lure him into sex again, then afterwards ask him if "hey do you want to go out"

and before asking don't ramble on a tangent and say anything about you said you weren't going to do this OR anything about friendship.

Make it easy for him to say yes, don't say anything that makes him think before hand.

good luck.

hot_kev

Re: I am in Love with my friend who I had sex with. What should I do?

3 years ago

You know what, there's nothing wrong if you fell in love with your friend because you really don't know when the love will come and you cannot dictate your heart who you love as well. Much better if you tell the truth to him, so that it will not worsen your life and the friendship between the two of you in the end.