We humans overcomplicate our lives so much... one reason we so love animals, they keep it real, they live in the moment. Perhaps it's because we feed off the drama, who knows.
Let's see...
- You want to be with her, and you're not in a relationship.
- She wants to be with you, and she is not in a relationship (going through a divorce, whatever).
- You live in different states which could be a big challenge (as you've seen before), but you are willing to go be with her.
So my question is... what is stopping you?
Is it a "rebound relationship"? Sure! To some degree I (Dan) believe that every relationship is a rebound of the previous one. That's just life. If you go through an obligatory 18 month solitary period you'll still want someone different from your last spouse, that's just the interesting reality of it.
I'm not a big believer in waiting, not for much of anything. I believe in the divine perfection of life (not going religious on you here, stay with me). Rather, life gives us opportunities at "the right time", and those opportunities tend to be limited time offers. If we don't cash them in, they expire, much like discount coupons.
All we have that is real is this moment, not the past (that's long gone), not tomorrow (that's only a hope, a dream). We don't know what will happen tomorrow (or even if there will be a tomorrow).
Seems this particular opportunity has come and gone several times in your life, and now it's back.
In your heart - today, right now - do you want to be with her? And do you feel she wants to be with you?
If so, then take action, take control, make it happen. Today. Reach out,make contact, go out there to see her and see if there's a chance to be together. Not maybe and someday, but now.