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Brad: This is a very common issue for men.

1. Take lots of time with arousal, before entering her. The faster you go to intercourse, the faster you're likely to reach climax.

2. You can train yourself to delay orgasm. Start by entering her very slowly. Literally, just penetrating with the tip of your penis then gradually entering further.

3. Let her go on top sometimes.

4. Just stop thrusting when you feel yourself moving toward climax. Just lie with her a minute until the feeling of impending orgasm passes. That takes discipline.

5. If these steps fail, then you will require more. You can research the squeeze technique online. If these fail, then you will probably need a medication such as an SSRI. That's the last step, though and most men don't need it once they "practice" for a while. Like anything else, you can train your body to respond differently.

thanks for the reply. but what is an SSRI?

Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitor. It's a class of antidepressants that have the effect of delaying ejaculation. They also reduce sexual appetite and response. I wouldn't use the meds unless I had thoroughly tried all the other methods. This is a common situation and I suspect the self "training" will work well.

ive been trying for 3 years now.. and i feel like ive tried everything... how long should i try before going to the next step?

Give this a fair try. If it doesn't work, then take it to the next step.

(FYI, I'm not affiliated with this website. It's just a good description.)


Squeeze Technique | Partner Therapy Group

These are exercises that strengthen your orgasm muscles. Next time you pee, stop the flow. You just contracted your orgasm muscles. When you orgasm, these muscles involuntarily contract. With kegels, you'll learn to delay these contractions. Do "flutters" and "holds". Practise holding for up to 10 minutes. When you're having sex, do the holds and you'll delay orgasm for minutes. When you finally do cum, you're orgasm will be extremely intense and will last for about 10 contractions.