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My fantasy might be uncommon, but I've had it on and off for years: I fantasize about being a prostitute or a call girl. I guess it is the idea of having sex with strangers, doing something "naughty" and having to do (in limits) what the other person wants me to, and even getting paid for it. I went on online forums a couple times where people were looking for "amateurs" to do blow jobs or spend a night with them at a hotel, and I started to think about it a lot.
I am happily married, and I do not want to risk my relationship, safety, health or reputation by actually responding to one of these ads, even though I sometimes think if I were single I would maybe consider it some more (btw, I am living in Europe where prostitution is legal). But I am looking for ways to incorporate this fantasy into my sex life with my husband. I am sure he would try out such things with me for my sake, but I don't think he is very comfortable with the whole idea of this fantasy (we talked about it only once). He would never go to a prostitute, and I don't think he is very comfortable with a situation where he would have to tell me what to do and only think about himself and his own wishes. In a way we are maybe both shy to go there - to this more dominant style in bed that I might prefer sometimes, but that we never really tried.
I don't know how to approach this subject any further. Should I work out a whole scenario (hotel room etc.) and maybe give him a "gift"? Or is it better to ease into something like that slowly, in our own bedroom? But how do I (we) start?
And how can I go about it so that this fantasy is not "this weird urge I have" and that I feel embarassed about, but rather something that my husband will find hot and a plus to our relationship and maybe really enjoy?
thank you so much for any thoughts on this issue!
alice
My fantasy might be uncommon, but I've had it on and off for years: I fantasize about being a prostitute or a call girl. I guess it is the idea of having sex with strangers, doing something "naughty" and having to do (in limits) what the other person wants me to, and even getting paid for it. I went on online forums a couple times where people were looking for "amateurs" to do blow jobs or spend a night with them at a hotel, and I started to think about it a lot.
I am happily married, and I do not want to risk my relationship, safety, health or reputation by actually responding to one of these ads, even though I sometimes think if I were single I would maybe consider it some more (btw, I am living in Europe where prostitution is legal). But I am looking for ways to incorporate this fantasy into my sex life with my husband. I am sure he would try out such things with me for my sake, but I don't think he is very comfortable with the whole idea of this fantasy (we talked about it only once). He would never go to a prostitute, and I don't think he is very comfortable with a situation where he would have to tell me what to do and only think about himself and his own wishes. In a way we are maybe both shy to go there - to this more dominant style in bed that I might prefer sometimes, but that we never really tried.
I don't know how to approach this subject any further. Should I work out a whole scenario (hotel room etc.) and maybe give him a "gift"? Or is it better to ease into something like that slowly, in our own bedroom? But how do I (we) start?
And how can I go about it so that this fantasy is not "this weird urge I have" and that I feel embarassed about, but rather something that my husband will find hot and a plus to our relationship and maybe really enjoy?
thank you so much for any thoughts on this issue!
alice
