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Make sure he knows you're unsatisfied. Communication is the most important thing. After that, if you still can't get satisfied, is it a physical thing or a psychological thing? if its physical, you may want to see a doctor (i have no idea what kind of doctor could help you with this, but you could start with your general physician and see where that leads you). If you think its psychological, the only thing i can suggest is just experimenting with various positions, foreplay, fetish-play etc.

Also, I have to ask, do you feel any inclination towards women? You could be a lesbian and not know it, or maybe you're asexual? I have a friend who has been romantically involved with a few men and women, but she doesn't feel any inclination towards sex at all.

I think Jen said once that sex shouldn't be a chore for either party, it should be pleasurable and satisfying for everyone involved (or something to that effect) and its true. You and him can enjoy sex together (assuming you're a straight, interested female)

I have been with both women and men, but I am more interested in men. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I am very committed to the relationship, its just I cant get off with him...any ideas on things I can try?

I don't encourage this, but if your heart has already set sail on the cheating boat, go for it.

Just tell yourself to make these promises before you take off.

1. Don't let him find out.
2. Take alot of time picking your 'cheat partner', and arrange a safe place and time. (This one is just to make you think things over, and hopefully you will realise it is not worth to cheat)
3. Your 'cheat partner' will never be his friend, or his friend's friend, or his friend's friend's friend.(Our world is really small, my friend)
4. Find a 'cheat partner' that you think is 10 times less attractive than your boyfriend.
5. If you get this far, do this just once and swear you will never do it again, and if you ever do it again, this relationship is pretty much done. Because it just takes too much time and effort.

Originally posted by: breakingdawnsunshine
I have been with both women and men, but I am more interested in men. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and I am very committed to the relationship, its just I cant get off with him...any ideas on things I can try?

There are definitely things you can try - but cheating is a really, really, really (did I say "really"?), really bad idea. Don't do this to yourself and your partner, it's not worth it.

If the relationship is beyond the fixing point, it's time to end it. But in most cases it can be saved. All couples have challenges or as we like to call them, "opportunities for growth". So this is yours...

Ideas to consider...
- go TOGETHER to a relationship therapist to find the real cause of your sexual issues - often it has little or nothing to do with sex
- got to a sex therapist - again, together - to get some ideas for spicing up your sex life
- consider taking your sex life up a notch by adding some spice and variety... consider sex games like fetishes and bondage (just light stuff at first) or even swinging (bringing another couple into your bedroom)

These are just ideas to get you thinking...

On counseling or therapy, remember that you are both seeking help, so it's highly recommended to go together; otherwise it can well end up backfiring. Think of it this way - you need help as a couple, not as an individual.

Here's a video to get you thinking on that...

Relationship Suck? Need Counseling? Watch this first!

Cheating, i.e. breaking the trust and seeing another person behind your partner's back is a recipe for disaster - it will likely lead to the break up of your relationship, but only after a lot of heartache and self-persecution on your own part.

Don't do it, it's not worth it. Face this problem head-on with your partner, or walk away if you cannot fix it.