I moved WAY too fast, how do I repair the relationship?

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 3 years ago

I've been dating this girl for a little while (About a month), and we've only been out on a couple dates. We've made out twice, once on each date, and on the last one, I put a lot of sexual pressure on her. I tried to take off her shirt, and she didn't want to, but eventually she did, without me even asking. I put a lot of sexual pressure on her, and I feel absolutely HORRIBLE about it. I feel so guilty and manipulative, and I don't know how to even begin to make it up to her or apologize. She kept saying that she had a good time, but I can tell she was a little uncomfortable. I feel like we're moving way too fast, and I'm the bad guy. How can I apologize or show her that I'm not just in this relationship for her body?

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love_mach..

Re: I moved WAY too fast, how do I repair the relationship?

3 years ago

Have you told her how you feel? How about starting there? You'll feel better if you apologize and tell her that you realize you made a mistake. She will also feel better knowing that you aren't really the type of guy who's always going to be putting that kind of pressure on her.

Also, make a point to tell her some of the reasons you are with her. Personally, I think the more subtle the better as you don't want to come on too strong, but you do need to let her know you're not just after sex. Or at least it sounds like you do.

john_galt..

Re: I moved WAY too fast, how do I repair the relationship?

3 years ago

Originally posted by: Love Machine
Have you told her how you feel? How about starting there? You'll feel better if you apologize and tell her that you realize you made a mistake. She will also feel better knowing that you aren't really the type of guy who's always going to be putting that kind of pressure on her.

Also, make a point to tell her some of the reasons you are with her. Personally, I think the more subtle the better as you don't want to come on too strong, but you do need to let her know you're not just after sex. Or at least it sounds like you do.

Alright, Thanks. I've talked to a couple of friends, and this answer's been pretty much consistent. Thanks so much!