Okay, I'm lesbian, 20 years old... I was with my recent ex-girlfriend (who is bi) for about a year and a half. I will admit, I made a lot of mistakes in our relationship and she did as well. Mostly financial struggle which lead up to an argument. After she and I broke up, she started dating my co-worker. This was three months ago, and she is still with him, but often tells me she's still in love with me and how she wants to make things work with me but she doesn't want to hurt him. Just the other day she showed up at my house unexpectedly because she wanted to talk... she told me she was in love with me and she misses "us". I told her I do as well. I'm so in love with her, I can't stop thinking about her. And I feel in the past three months, I've matured a lot. I asked her to be with me again last night, she said she didn't think it was a good time... I don't understand, the other night she would have said yes to me, and two days past and its like she changed her mind?