i need help expressing myself!

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 3 years ago

ok well there is this girl that i met that has much of the same problems in life that i do. and well we started talking and we got to know eachother and to me she is a realy kool chick that i think i want to be with. but there are some other things.. well shes bisexual and a tomboy which is kool. and idk what to do lately we have been hanging out at her house and messing around playing games and talking...and i dont know what her type of guy is but we get along really well and idk how to bring up something like asking her out when we are talking without ruining the relationship..so idk what to do but i really want to be with this girl but i dont want to be lame about presenting my feeling for her....cuz presentation is everything...idk what to do at this point..and i really want to kiss her so whats a kool way to bring that up?

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Beagle

Re: i need help expressing myself!

3 years ago

Ok, several issues here. First, proclaiming your undying love for someone is generally not a good move. You just need to be together and let the bond grow. The relationship evolves from there.

As far as the kiss, the way to start is with gradually increased touching. Knuckle bumps turn into light shoulder punches, etc. gradually build the physical contact. If you touch her and she tenses up, then back off and try later. Work up to putting your arm around her if you're sitting or holding her if you're standing. Then just lean your head down while parting your lips slightly. You'll know what she wants you to do.

The key here is to read the signals. As you escalate the level of contact, you'll know if she's comfortable with you going further. Just observe her body language. If you put your arm around her shoulder and she relaxes into you, then she's comfortable with that level of contact. If she tenses and pulls away, she's not ready. Be sure not to move faster than she's comfortable with.

keven_in_..

Re: i need help expressing myself!

3 years ago

well maybe you should tell her how you feel i mean you never know she just might fell the same way you just have to take a chance and hope for the best