I recently found that my bf of 2 yrs has a facebook. i added him and he blocked me! why?

in Love and Relationships » Relationship Advice • 2 years ago

so there is way more to this. been with boyfriend friend 2 years. 4 months after we started dating we were on a weekend trip to new orleans when i stumbled upon some messages in his phone between him and a girl the night before when he was drunk. Basically saying she wanted to him and him leading her on saying she could. Over a year later I had forgiven this. So I find out in Sept 2008 he has a facebook account. I add him and he rejects it!! I feel something isn't right and I figure out his password (yes i realize i sound like a crazy) and find message between him and a different girl flirting. Turns out he had her over to his house one night to watch a movie when he told me he was doing work. I confronted her and she said she was so sorry she had no idea he had a girlfriend. He told me that he lied because he knew i would be mad or jealous. I had the right to be mad right? We are in a serious relationship and he went behind my back and was with another girl alone who thought he was single. So after this he BLOCKS me on facebook. He says his reasoning is because I just want to spy on him but he says he has nothing to hide... ok all this being said, I am 23 and he is 28 and i swear (contrary to how immature this all sounds) that we truly do have an overall good relationship. He says he wants to marry me and we are both close with one anothers families. Right now we are long distance (since Dec 08) because i got a job and he is finishing his doc. degree. Now that I'm rambling.. i guess what i want to know is. how do we solve this? I think it's wrong that he has me blocked and it makes me not trust him. He doesn't trust me now because he thinks i want to spy on him. We are stuck in what feels like a catch 22 and both of us are stubborn and can't stand to "loose" this battle! help!!! ps. i love you guys! :)

Replies(3)

Beagle

Re: I recently found that my bf of 2 yrs has a facebook. i added him and he blocked me! why?

2 years ago

There's only one reason a guy wouldn't want his girl on his FaceBook. What you have here is a person who is being dishonest and trying to cover his tracks.

Time to wake up and smell the coffee.

jazzy23_d..

hes probably cheatinq on you

2 years ago

qurl if he dnt want you as a frend on facebook dnt sweat it. yu'll find sum one els and dats way btter than him!!!!!!!!;)

jtothev

Re: I recently found that my bf of 2 yrs has a facebook. i added him and he blocked me! why?

2 years ago

I’ll be honest here, I was near the end of my first long term relationship and I joined Facebook. He did not have an account and I used it as private safe place to try and see what other men were out there. I am saying I did this when I knew things were over, our once healthy relationship was not healthy anymore, and low and behold I met lots of nice interesting men on it. Now I’m just using my example to make a point… I still have a facebook, my fiancé is not only my friend but we are both listed as engaged to each other on it; we have lots of mutual friends. Nothing is secret and I don’t have to be accused of snooping if I read his wall. There is only one reason you are blocked, it’s because he wants to keep something secret from you, and just like I did. If you have a secure healthy relationship facebook should not a secret world for either of you. He has a history, you caught him red handed, this is not a man who wants to marry you, it’s a man who wants his cake and eat it to, either that or he’s straight up looking for a replacement. There are lots of men out there who will treat you better, and who will love you and not play games with you and other girls. You need to just get out of this situation, the more you stick with it the more you will get hurt.