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My wife and I have been together about 20yrs. We have 3 kids, she stays at home and I have a pretty good job. Never would have thought we would get into something like this. Not sure why it happened, 5 years ago we would have been like no way.
We had been hanging out with couple since we got married. We knew them in high-school. Great people, he was one of my closest friends. Allways had a ton of fun when we went out - never any swinging stuff either. Then one night, it just happened. WTF?! Wow. We had fun with it for a few months. It did not feel wierd or anything - that is the odd thing. My wife and I became closer. Life just seemed so much more exciting. Talk about a breath of fresh air. Almost like God gave us this thing and we feel like why isnt everyone doing it. Anyway, it was short lived. My friend died in a horrible unexpected way right before christmas. Left us with guilt. We went to shrink and still go. He was like not your fault he had other issues. We never thought this swinging thing would happen again.
Well last night another old friend of ours comes home. He is getting divorce - wife cheating on him.... Well, we get drinking and damn, my wife, myself and him get it on. WTF again! Now my wife and I dont think anything about it. We just having a good time, listening to good music, going out, drinking. - living like we were back in college. But now I have a threesome with my wife? Am i crazy. It really does not bother me. I know we love eachother. We ask ourselves "why do we do this" and we think it is just because it is fun we guess. why do peeps do this?
I guess my question is, and I am sure if I read all these posts you have similar questions, how normal is this? Why does it happen? Our biggest fear is other people find out. But, whos business is it what we do? We just feel real weird and I think it is just because you dont hear about it much and now we are "it".
Are there any statistics on this lifestyle? Maybe the more we know the less confused we will be over it. I can say now that we have no desires to go to a swinging club or look for others, but we never thought we would the first time with the friends...nevermind what happened last night!! So maybe in a few years that happens too. I just like to know what we are getting into. Looks like we are heading down this road. My wife is the most gorgeous women. Why do I allow this to happen and it does not bother me. I guess these other people have been very close to us also.
So we are hoping that we can read some more on this stuff. I will spend some time cehcking out forums looks like a lot of great stuff! just had to get this question out.
We had been hanging out with couple since we got married. We knew them in high-school. Great people, he was one of my closest friends. Allways had a ton of fun when we went out - never any swinging stuff either. Then one night, it just happened. WTF?! Wow. We had fun with it for a few months. It did not feel wierd or anything - that is the odd thing. My wife and I became closer. Life just seemed so much more exciting. Talk about a breath of fresh air. Almost like God gave us this thing and we feel like why isnt everyone doing it. Anyway, it was short lived. My friend died in a horrible unexpected way right before christmas. Left us with guilt. We went to shrink and still go. He was like not your fault he had other issues. We never thought this swinging thing would happen again.
Well last night another old friend of ours comes home. He is getting divorce - wife cheating on him.... Well, we get drinking and damn, my wife, myself and him get it on. WTF again! Now my wife and I dont think anything about it. We just having a good time, listening to good music, going out, drinking. - living like we were back in college. But now I have a threesome with my wife? Am i crazy. It really does not bother me. I know we love eachother. We ask ourselves "why do we do this" and we think it is just because it is fun we guess. why do peeps do this?
I guess my question is, and I am sure if I read all these posts you have similar questions, how normal is this? Why does it happen? Our biggest fear is other people find out. But, whos business is it what we do? We just feel real weird and I think it is just because you dont hear about it much and now we are "it".
Are there any statistics on this lifestyle? Maybe the more we know the less confused we will be over it. I can say now that we have no desires to go to a swinging club or look for others, but we never thought we would the first time with the friends...nevermind what happened last night!! So maybe in a few years that happens too. I just like to know what we are getting into. Looks like we are heading down this road. My wife is the most gorgeous women. Why do I allow this to happen and it does not bother me. I guess these other people have been very close to us also.
So we are hoping that we can read some more on this stuff. I will spend some time cehcking out forums looks like a lot of great stuff! just had to get this question out.
