I told the truth, but how do I know if he is too?

in Love and Relationships » Cheating, Infidelity, and Affairs • 2 years ago

Dear Dan and Jennifer,

I'm have been watching a few of your videos and I'm very thankful for what you two do. I have a question that's been bothering me for a little while and I'm not sure how to go about it.
I am dating a guy that is 25 and will be 26 very soon, that however is not my problem. My problem is that I've cheated on him. I told him that I had cheated and he seems fine with it; here in lays my problem: I was a little stupid, and told the guy that I had sex with that my boyfriend is relatively fine with the fact that I cheated on him, and the second guy is saying that this is probably because my boyfriend is also cheating on me. I realize that this could just be his way of wanting me to break up with my boyfriend, but I'm confused.
So, my problem -in short since I'm a bit of a chatter box- is; how do I know if my boyfriend is really okay with me cheating on him and is telling me the truth when I ask him if he's cheating on me? Or should I just stop worrying about it and forget this whole thing ever happened?

Thank you again for the wonderful videos,
Confused and Confessing.

Replies(1)

Xero

Re: I told the truth, but how do I know if he is too?

2 years ago

Did you ask him if he was cheating on you?

You should stop talking to this other guy you had sex with. That needs to stop because its not helping your relationship. You are both going to have to rebuild this relationship of trust.

The reason for this is because u broke the trust of being faithful, and you don't trust him being faithful to you. So you both have broken it both ways and now you both need to rebuild and make it better.

I'm not totally sure how to do it, but to start sit down with him and talk about everything in your relationship. What has happened and why you love each other. Then promise each other that you will begin to trust each other once again and make things better.